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Not sure if this is the right forum for this but..

Zarris
Zarris

I am not sure if this is the proper place for this but I am not sure where else to ask/say this. I have problems with my mum and her not understanding or being aware of my feelings (I am not sure if that is accurate, but it is the best I can think of right now), and I am thinking of writing a letter of sorts for her to read while I am at school for the day (I am 19, living at home with her [life is expensive], and I go to college). In this letter I would let her know what I am feeling and how the things she says and does, or doesn't do, makes me feel. And I wanted to get a sense of whether or not this is something that I should do. I would ask my friends but due to certain events things are a little... tense right now. I might still ask, or try to, and get some advice from them. I am sorry if this is the wong place to post this.

mirandac
mirandac
I would talk to a counselor at school if that was
Me. Most colleges have them on staff or if you
Have insurance see a therapist.

If your family is dysfunctional the Dynamics are
tough and hard to ever change and letter writing
often Does you No good. IMO

You can only control, change and fix yourself.

There is a forum for family issues thats fairly active
On DS, HUGS

https://www.dailystrength.org/group/family-issues
bees2000
bees2000
I read your post. Marandc gave good advice, but I'd like to add this to it. As a mother, I would not dismiss my sons letter lightly. I'm a letter writer too, its a great way to get out ones feelings. Good luck.
Zarris
Zarris
Thank you bees. One reason for the letter is because when I try and tell her in person she never really listens and dismisses what I am saying or does not "listen". I have also found the group for Family Issues so I will be moving this over there if I remember to do that. And as I am typing this I just saw the link that Marandc left, which I didn't see the first time.
maybe2late
maybe2late
I agree with Bridgie. Write the letter and wait a while. Writing can be dangerous because someone can read a sentence and take it the wrong way. She could also read into it things you didn't write.

Parents are difficult to change. To some extend they will always see you as their child. It may be more practical to just get through this difficult time and move out when you're able to.
bnrokenandlost
bnrokenandlost
I agree with bridgie. And yes it can be taken the wrong way. And maybe2late has allot of good points too.
bnrokenandlost
bnrokenandlost
I personally have my own issues with my mum, to an extreme state. Definitely write the letter. The best thing for you two to get closer is if you understand each other. If she isn't aware of your problems, how can she know that your not ok, and to change? Talking in person to her is scary so the letter is a brilliant way to do it, but some things CAN be taken the wrong way. Be aware of that when you write it, look at it from not only your perspective, but hers as well. Think about what she might be thinking when she reads it. It helps to get in that mind state so it doesn't sound like your attacking her out of the blue completely randomly. I say go for it, takes guts, and good luck!