Its normal to miss the ex. It is. You thought of them everyday. You but a lot of emotional time and energy in. It will get better. No contact will help. Remember you are doing it for you. Everytime you break it you pick the scab.

It will be tough. I created an email address. When I want to contact her I write there. Or journal it out.

Day by day it improves. Focus on you. I still miss her and its been over a month but now its just sad sometimes instead of crushing. My life is going on.

Your daughter's birthday is about her not you or your ex. Focus on her and make her smile.

Take it 1 hr, 1 minute however small at a time..

I think we need to accept that it is okay even though we miss them - it just means that we truly did love them, you know? It doesn't say anything lesser of us. But in fact more. And I fully agree with Nicholas - It really helps when you find a safe place to write your feelings out to him. I do that almost everyday, and reading back, I am able to see the progress.

Good luck and I hope you feel better and better with each day. Happy birthday in advance to your daughter!

Thank you Nicholas and Jean I was able to allow her to enjoy her day. He even wished her a happy Birthday. I'm going to keep working on me. Thank you both!!

Loyality it gets better and once you move on with your life you will see more light. I know it's hard when you have kids I took my ex back after the first time she left my kids would have been much better off if I hadn't done that.

Thank you lostinutah. I'm finding that no matter what I have to take me back and it feels really good. For too long I've put everyone first for years leaving myself completely empty and drained of everything and that is to high a price. It actually feels good just thinking about how the old new me will blossom. I just have to keep believing and consciously work at it. Alot of the advice ive gotten from here makes so much sense, I think ive even pinpointed my part and connection of all three relationships that I've ever been in