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Not getting any better

Bongo
Bongo

Well the pain is still there and all I want to do is go home and make it all better but I know deep down I cant go back to someone who did what he did to me and my son. He is now back with his ex gf.  She is always there when we we had problems and now shes back again with her 2 four yr old twins in my house and in my sons room and it makes me sick. Not all of my stuff is out cause refused to give it to me yet I am still so sick and hurt and want my life back. But it was miserable being there too. He was really emotionally mean to me all the time. I guess I am just scared and have been with him so long I dont know how to do this life without him. And its killing me. He has so many demons in him yet I still want him. Why!!!! I just want this pain to go away. I dont want to miss him any more. But this pain is too much waking up everyday crying. Just want peace and to be ok with myself and I just cant seem to get there. I hate waking upeveryday. I hate it!!! I pray to please God take this u can have it. I am so lost and broken.  I did not think any person could feel this broken inside. I had no idea that this kind of pain really does happen. I need better days and to be strong for my son and honestly hes the only reason I keep going right now. I have to I cant let him down lile he did.

jojored
jojored
It's a slow process, but you WILL learn to do this life without him. Take it slowly. Join a support group, join a gym, start walking every night after dinner, be with people who are uplifting. Find one good new thing to do in your life and focus on that. Do you have friends or family who will go with you to the house to retrieve the rest of your stuff? Maybe you can stand outside while giving them instructions, if you can't handle seeing her and her kids' stuff in your old rooms, which is totally understandable. It's time to clean and bandage the wound.
BellaRose
BellaRose
There may be someone very wonderful heading to you ........but you have to get through this for good things to start happening. Great things ahead!!! Don't romanticize the past and forget about the stress and drama you went through. Let the ex gf have him and his drama.......he will suck the life out of her, too.......and sit back and watch the circus it will be w the 2 yr old twins and this relationship .......when my marriage was blowing up, my friend told me to write down a reason to get out of bed or goal for each day of the coming week.....it made me feel good the check them off. Every minute , of each day, puts this relationship further behind you. Sometimes we just have to try to get through things, one minute at a time. Turn your face forward to watch for good things ahead.
Akb
Akb
I am feeling the same way exactly. I feel what he did to me and my son is cruel. Yet, I saw him today, did not talk, just saw him at the gym and came home and cried my eyes out. I still miss him and love him after all he has done. I too, am only holding it together for my son. Sometimes I think if I could just check out, I would. I'm struggling thinking about my future without him. It doesn't seem possible. Our stories are so similar. He always ends up with this one girl every time we spit. There are always other women while I can't even begin to think of another man.