Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I have been struggling lately, especially the last two weeks. They say it gets better on some things, yes, but on others, not really. I would not post this here but maybe it would help someone else, as well. Things in all senses are not progressing they way they should. Thanks.
Has it occurred to you that maybe he's dragging he's feet on settlements and custody and the house because it will inconvenience him personally and financially? After all, he has it pretty good. He still has his house and sees his kids everyday. I doubt he has to clean the toilet, doesn't have to pay maintenance or child support, and he still gets to put it in the skank's can when he feels like it.
Make a list of priorities. Maybe put the house on the market first so there will be some incentive to get the other "ducks in a row." Then YOU decide what you think the arrangements for custody should be and YOU decide what he should pay for support and maintenance, and lay it all out for him. Don't let him avoid the issues
It's time to think about yourself first and foremost. You can't be there for everyone else if you're not there for yourself first.
I hope this isn't over the line, but the fucktard put your life on hold and I'd like to see you moving forward. I'm not sure you can until he's out of your life on a daily basis.
Not to mention...I have this bad back end full of cellulite and have these nasty princess panties on that are just NOT in fashion. What is a woman to do?
The whole process stinks.
((((((llmt))))))
I also hear you on the being alone thing. I miss that companionship, too. Even after a year, i don't miss it any less. But it only coming once in a lifetime? nah. You will find someone else who treats you even better.....i really believe that. You are a wonderful person. much love to you, babe...
When you're still in it, it seems like the crap will never end, but it will.
Hang in there. I still have my moments where nothing goes the way it should. I also still miss having someone who knew me so well to talk to about the little things. When there is noone to talk to about the little things, they seem so much bigger than they are. I hug you. I love you! Do you have munchkins tonight? I don't and could buy you a drink or ten :)
Big hugs to you - you are a wonderful person.
Lynne
I don't have much else I can add to what everyone else has said, but I'm sending you hugs and support!!
I like Bart's "drill Seargent " Approach... You will get to the point that you will get your ass moving again. And it will be soon. Keep talking about it. Especially with people who have been through it... (((Llmt)))))))