What's the definition of "the way they should"????

Forgot, that I am just worn down, tired, etc. It shows on my face and I feel I have aged 20 years. Meh.

((((llmt)))) Sorry you're having a tough time lately. Do you think it will get better when you are living apart?

This is common during the divorce process. I remember sometimes just having a period of blues--nothing seemed to go right, the struggle of divorce was weighing me down, etc.

These periods do pass, but you may need to do something to jolt yourself out of the blues--go get a massage, buy something nice, do something with your kids, etc. I found just taking a long drive and listening to music really helped.

I'm so sorry you're struggling today. Hope you have a better day tomorrow.

Big hugs!!!!

Stress, exhaustion, grief...can do that to our bodies. Is there anything...anything at all, no matter how small or "silly" that would make you happy right now??

You're get rest one day, and sleep will cure that.

He'll still be his pathetic self, only more so, just a little further down the line......

I thought most of the divorce stuff would be settled. Well all I have is that I am divorced. the asset division is taking forever, and we have the house to get ready to sell, he is still here in the house, I just can't move on. Child custody needs to be discussed and whenever I bring stuff up it is like I am talking to a brick wall. Neither one of us wants to face the facts, I know, but I feel I am behind the 8 ball on so much.

I would have to ask the same as amfedo, how do you think they should progress? I find many times, when I have a vision in my head of how things "should be" it skews how reality really is and I get disappointed. I think that this isn't how it is suppose to be instead of embracing what is happening right now, handling it and waking up on the other side.

You are a sweet, honest and caring woman L, and I hate to see things get the best of you, but they will at times. All you can do is take what comes on any given day, grab your bat and knock it the F* out of the park so to clear your own path.

*bear hug*

I have been trying, but ultimately more crap keeps getting piled. Sorry to be a whiner...I am not usually like this, especially on here. I just want things to be different and they can't and I don't know how to fix any of it.

just reading your last post as it came in after I posted mine. There are times where people will leave ends dangling cus once they are complete, there is closure and the finality of it all is prevelant.

whine away...everyone should be able to do that once in a while. It sounds like you have so much going on and I cannot relate to it, but I/we can lend you some strength and support. Some days you just have to dig deep!

I'm not surprised you are feeling like this. I have never been divorced, but I know what's it's like to have your heart broken. It takes more time than I would have EVER thought to get back to ALL THE WAY normal. Give yourself props and time!! ;) Hang in there!

((((((Llmt)))))
So sorry you are feeling so tired and wish things were different. Hang in there

I'm gonna agree with #4 and say you need some "L time"

((((((((((((((((( L )))))))))))))))))))

And I know how you feel about being stuck (and I know you know I know that you know that I know...)

The finances...all the bullshit that goes along with it...it sucks ass...and 90% of the time there's not much we can do but take the shit...but we can persevere...we know there's a light at the end of that looooooooong dark tunnel...the trip blows...but peace will come.

I am hanging in best as I can. I am swinging Chi's bat going for the home run. Looking for the light at the end of the tunnel. I don't know what has come over me lately. I just cannot do everything...I try the best I can to do it all but ultimately I just end up like this. Funny I have had many psych course and my minor in it...and you know all the tactics and what you are "supposed" to do and how to change things, but when you are living it and your heart is in a different place than your head, it becomes just hard sometimes. Then I hear so many of the same shitting stories on here, just brings a person down sometimes. And I have always been the person to pick myself up, dust me off and on to the next issue. But for some reason, between work and my "home" life, I just don't get a reprieve. And I just know how "whiners" are perceived on here so I will stop now...lol.