Hang in there it does get better. You will find strength to get through this. It's a process and believe me it sucks. Some days I feel like it just happened yesterday. Its been a lirtle over a month for me. this grouo helps a lot journal how you feel everyday and you can look back and see how far you have come. Stay strong hugs

Oh charleee this totally will NOT kill you. I know that part of you doesn't want to hear that because your pain is what keeps her alive in your heart. I know because every time someone would tell me that I'll be ok I would say inside "you don't understand!!!! I WONT be ok without him!"
You will. I promise. Put one foot in front of the other. Go outside and look at the sky. It is immense and there just for you. Put your face on the earth and let your tears be soaked up by her. She is your mother. She will hold more grief than your tiny heart can carry around. Let the universe carry you for now. Let us support you from afar and know that we are there close in feeling your pain for a second to lift that burden for you. As I write this I am crying a tear for you, let me have that one. One less to burden you with.
Find joy today for just a moment. Your life is opening up!! And right now? Close your eyes and take in a deep beautiful breath.
Peace love.....

I'm sorry that you have to go through this painful journey. And, I have been in the same position. I can't even say I'm out of the woods yet, but Im finally getting at least couple of hours of normalcy. I consider it a big win.

Like you, my first few months are really painful and the hardest. I don't eat, sleep, confused, and would rather stay in bed just to cry my heart out. I was scared for myself, so I reach out to anybody or anyone that can save me. I hope you do the same. We(here at DS), therapist, or even text hotlines can only guide you, but you have you help yourself too.

Cry if you feel like crying, scream if you have to, go to the boxing gym to punch bags or even punch your pillow, do something and let your pain come out in a healthy way..at least try. If you don't feel like eating, force yourself to eat even a little. You have to... hang in there. Most of us here are going through the same tough time, so know you're not alone.

You'll be okay. Hugs!

Thank you. Just knowing you all are out there is good for me.
I'm so desperate right now. I have never known such pain.
Sundancer, you are so kind. Thank you.
As I pray for each of you, please keep me in your thoughts.
I am one very shattered woman with a very large mountain to climb.

I do not envy you, i did the two life stressors.
Divorce and moving.

I had time in between though to deal with each
Event and cope plus i was actively In three types
of support groups to help me move thru it.

Only give your mother what you can. You need
To focus on you and your own wellbeing. I had
Nothing left in me to give to anyone Else. When
The tank is empty its empty, HUGS

Be easy on yourself. You are in a super-accelerated process - I don't believe the majority of those told that their marriage is over then have to contend with moving out so quickly. It's only been a week for you. Give yourself much much more time to grieve, don't rush the process or deny the pain. Maybe the drive alone will allow you some time to process things. Just believe all of us who say you WILL be ok. It will NOT be easy, but you will survive and eventually thrive.

I am praying that the drive will help some. I don't want it to have the opposite affect. Thank you for assuring me that I will be ok. I hate to admit that I don't even know what ok feels like anymore, but I have to believe that I won't be stuck in this deep sadness forever.

You won't be stuck in sadness forever. I can hear it in how you're wording your posts, you want to feel better, get through the hurt and betrayal, and you sound strong underneath all of the initial shock and heartbreak. You'll probably find you're a lot stronger than you previously thought.

I had to actually force myself to smile at strangers. I was aware that I was walking around with this dark cloud over my head, so I intentionally smiled at people in stores, passing in the halls at work, wherever. It was probably a pretty creepy smile in the beginning, but I was a work in progress. It did help me feel better. I also had an easier time being receptive to total strangers, people who knew nothing about me and my emotional turmoil. I could "play" being the old me, the one who was positive, energetic and happy to just be me. That's what I'm hoping the drive does for you. Take on the role of the old Charleee1, see if she can help lift you a bit.

Charleee1--it gets better with time and a lot of patience! I honestly thought it was the end of the world when my husband and I first separated. Like you, I was pretty much overcome with a lot of emotions. However with time, I feel like I am starting to get out of the fog of all of this. Yes, there are days I still cry and do the what if game. I believe that God is going to take care of me and that He has a plan for me. That is what keeps me going.

I also have been involved in therapy and that has helped me so much. There are still things that I have to go through during this process but I have gone through things that I never thought I could and it has made me realize I am stronger than I believe. Rely on this community and know that all of us are here whenever you need us. Hang in there!

One step at a time u can do this. :) I find it hard myself to face each day amd dread every night but u find the strength. One foot in front of the other. When it becomes too much take it hour by hour, minute by minute. U will have good days and some not so good but have faith. I understand and know ur struggle so if I can help I'm a message away.

I would just say hang in there and give it some time. I was a basket case the first month but I'm definitely feeling better than I was. You will be ok. I promise.

You all have been my angels today. Rereading your replies has kept me going. I manage to make it through the night ok but when morning comes I feel like I get hit by a bowling ball over and over.
Thank you all.