Is this the same person who your profile shows you were with 3.5 years and he cheated on you or?

Honestly, for me, I wouldn't care if someone thought i was crazy and ran his mouth. I know my truth, and I know I'm not, so I don't let others' insecurities get visited onto me.

No I need update my profile. This is a guy I have been talking to for the last 6 months or so.

I'm guessing his "open relationship" may not have been all that open.....

so have you met him before (face to face)? Or just talking/ texting the past 6 months?

Just been talking/texting the last 6 months. I feel like I have gotten really close to him. I just dont understand the no explanation?

Ooooh this is "open relationship" guy?

Yes open relationship guy. I signed in on my daughter's facebook and looked on his FB and he posted something about someone saying negative things about him and the people he loves so I am assuming maybe he cares more for this girl he was leading on.

Personally, I think you should be thankful he is chasing after this other woman. Let him go. It doesn't sound as though he would be faithful to you anyway if he wants an "open relationship" Speaking of that, these work for a little while but, in most cases, they end in a breakup. I have seen this happen before. Sooner or later, one or the other finds someone else they wish to spend more time with, jealousy rears its ugly head and the war is on and, the breakup follows.

regardless of who he is as a person, there are ppl who does not want to give closure/reason or explanation on their own behaviour. you have clearly asked for explanation but that is all you can do. you cannot make him nor force him to give explanation when he simply does not want to or does not care. just live your life like you used to before you met him becasue you cannot wait for a reply/explanation that may never come. (like sitting on edge of your seat, anxiously waiting for something while you own life passes away)
Also, ppl who are in open relationship are simply immatures, looking for fun time to kill their boredom. they don't take themselves nor their lives seriously so don't expect anyone of them to take you seriously either. In long run, they are digging their own grave. they do not have "line" (order) in their life, they are just messed up individual.
It also seems like you have developed a feeling for this person and you have only known him for 6 month over the internet and over the phone but not in person. you need to ask yourself whether whom you have feeling for is the person who he truly is or person whom "you" wish to believe he is or person whom "he" wish you to believe he is (when it is actually not the case).
Try not to hang around with ppl who are messed up, they tend to drag other ppl around with them. meaning, they can mess up your life like they messed up with theirs.
don't get swept away from feelings of fun and excitment the "Opposite attract" tends to bring. they are very short lived. It is "Similarity" (views, moral standards, beliefs) you should be looking for. another way of saying, your "good" partner should be someone whos natural behaviour (his thoughts/words/action in his natural/comfortable state) is something you are comfortable with. if not, then obvioulsy there is going to be lot of issues and arguments within the relationship. Living/being alone isnt bad and its not something to be afraid of, but ppl get into particular relationship "hoping" that it might be "better" than being alone. so make sure that when you enter into a relationship, that it is truly better than being alone, not more miserable because you settled down with wrong person which then you will probably start to think being solo was lot better. you need to think realistically and rationally about the choice you are about to make and if the decision is regarding another person, you need to know them for who they truly are and be able to judge/measure against your own personality, views, beliefs and moral standards.

I agree with OldBiker--I know it doesn't feel like it, but you seem to have dodged a bullet.

Go No Contact with him. You are never going to get the answers you want from him.

Don't worry about him saying things about you. You know who you are and what he says doesn't matter. My ex did things like that to me and eventually he had to eat his words.

Sending hugs!!! Stay strong.

Thank you all. It is getting easier. I think I was more upset over the fact of him telling me he wanted to hang out and then literally 5 minutes later he blocked me.
I thought I was a good person and was there for him and listened to him and tried to tell him not to let people judge him. He would be help upset when this girls parents were judging him. They don't like him and haven't accepted him and do not want him with their daughter but for some reason he thinks he can make them.
He has posted he loves his life and this is the happiest he has ever been.
I don't have a choice but not to have no contact with him since he has blocked me but I know its better this way.

You said it sounds like he cares more for the girl he was leading on...sorry to say this but it looks like you are the one he was leading on, probably she had something to do with you being blocked-it really sounds like he was cheating on someone.

I definitely know he was leading me on and playing me. Even tho he says he wasn't. We talked / texted everyday all day. I would ask him about the other girls and I would always get I am single I can see whoever I want. Then after I seen the post where his daughter referred to his new girlfriend thats when he said its a open relationship & he started saying he could have sex with me. I told him if he was in this "relationship" he shouldn't of been leading me on and giving me false hope & he said he never lead me on. I did get a call from someone saying he was with this person & this person & I got upset about it bc I just felt like everything he was telling me was lies and he told me with me getting upset I was ruining any chances of us and I was acting like a high school kid.