Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Heather8585 09/16/2016

im trying my hardest with no contact but I'm finding that tough. It's horrible actually! But I know it's for the best! He's lied to me several times since we split, saying I need a few weeks to clear my head, to I need a few months to clear my head to then I can't talk to you until next year!

Told me he split with me the first time for a reason and that he only got back with me through guilt. And then in the next breath said well we got back together because I wanted to make it work.

I was diagnosed with a mental health illness and I wasn't too great before my diagnosis. I ended up in hospital, he dumped me then got back together with me and then dumped me again. He says that it is all my fault that we split! If I never got sick then I guess things would be okay.

MinFlorida 09/16/2016

He sounds like some kind of a manipulative jerk. Sorry to be so blunt, but anyone that uses guilt and then changes his mind a second later? No, he's a jerk.

If you have a mental illness diagnosis, then you are in treatment. Listen to your Doctor. Take your meds & see your therapist. Do what they tell you to do. & do stay away from this guy, he is just plain poison!

Love doesn't manipulate, doesn't hurt, doesn't repeatedly dump you and doesn't pour 100% of the blame on you. Mental illness IS NO DIFFERENT than physical illness. Cancer or MS or a broken arm wouldn't/shouldn't affect a relationship....and neither should mental illness. The only time ANY of those FOUR sickness/illness do affect relationships are when the relationship isn't healthy to begin with. AND IT SOUNDS LIKE YOURS WASN'T HEALTHY BEFORE...but not on your half of it....on his side. I am sorry that you found one of those kind. {{{Hugs}}}

Heather8585 09/16/2016

I just can't clear the thought that if I wouldn't have been sick things would be okay! I never wanted to be like this!

He told me that the reason for his space is to clear his head, forget all about me and get over the anger that 'I caused' while being sick.

He has also said that if I don't obey his wishes for space then things will get worse and he will never speak to me again.

I must be some kind of stupid.

KCxo 09/16/2016

Your situation sounds very similar to mine in allot of ways :(

jaynib 09/18/2016

What you have to do is play this out in your head - what do you want from him and how could this possibly go now? If you are dealing with an illness you need someone who is going to support you in that, not make things worse! Please, do yourself a favor and give him all the time he needs and hopefully in that time you'll have gained the strength to see that what he has is not love. It's dang hard but wait for the good stuff. Find good people to be in your corner and draw strength from them. Praying for you...

Heather8585 09/19/2016

I guess I don't know what to do! I guess forgetting about him is the only thing to do really? It's the same old scenario, I always remember the good things and forget all the bad. Is there any tips on how to try and move forward? My head spins daily and I can't help but feel I'm at fault.

Tonell18 09/19/2016

I know how you feel, I'm currently going through the same thing. I was depressed before this break up & now it's even worse.
Might advice is to seek professional help if you can't afford that confide in someone you trust. You need to talk it through & know that you will make it though eventhough it doesn't seem like it right now. Praying for you & sending you lots of hugs

jaynib 09/19/2016

The only tip I can give you to move forward is to make your life something to look forward to. Take a class in something you always wanted to do, join a club or support group, if you can get a dog (I did and it did wonders for me!). Sometimes it just takes time though. I know it hurts because you were connected to him. You just have to remember that to stay is to invite more pain. He's made that clear. One day you'll see that a relationship with someone who is actually into you, who is good for you and to you, is so SO much better. Hugs and prayers.

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