Sorry to hear about your situation. Breaking via text is rude, disrespectful, immature and cowardly. My ex-wife 2 years ago told me she wanted out of our marriage and divorce over text. We got back together 6 months ago after being divorced for over a year because she said she realized her mistake, apologized and wanted to be a family again. Guess what???? I got a text last Friday saying she wanted out of our relationship again.

I know you are hurting and want closure, but please don't expect it from a person that ends relationships via text. They didn't have enough respect to break up in person and I doubt they will not have enough respect to give you the closure you deserve.

Feel free to message me if you'd like to discuss more or just to vent. Keep your head up and focus on you and how to move forward.

It may be impossible to see right now but if you can take the time to step back and view the situation objectively closure is exactly what you got. It sounds like this guy did you a favor and again it may be nearly impossible to see in the current emotional fog in which you find yourself. Text message breakups are remarkably passive and cowardly and reveals a lack of character. I know it's not going to help your depression but focusing inwards to try to pull yourself out of Perpetual funk where depression seems to take over your body and control your actions and make you withdraw from social situations as well as activities that used to bring you happiness and pleasure, is a difficult monkey to shake off your back. The problem with depression is that it can become a self-sustaining pattern and you will never get rid of it by waiting for it to just subside. You are actually going to have to regain control of yourself force yourself against your own emotional current to begin to try to help yourself as best you can. Sometimes we rely too heavily on other people when really we have to be our own best friends first. And as a husband and father of two, I was told the same thing because I too suffer bouts of depression and I've always put myself 4th. I will say have faith not in any ludicrous concept of a higher power because that is not looking at yourself. Have faith in Yourself that you Will get through this. Tomorrow is another day, the sun will rise again, and with it comes new opportunities to find happiness in yourself. And when you can reach that place, it will not happen overnight, but in the end you will be a happier person, and that attracts other happy people. Maybe this time ones with a sense of Honor dignity and respect. It is actually toxic to be in a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship because you don't want to be alone. But once you can become cool with yourself the chips in life will all start to fall into place. Find strength, and you are going to have to go out and find it because it will not come to you. You are going to have to ask yourself do you really want to wallow in agony forever or do you want to be happy again? And if the answer is the latter you are going to have to break some patterns that are all too familiar for you. Self-awareness is key. Be mindful of your thoughts because your feelings can betray you and undermine what you actually want in life. And it sounds like you want to be happy with someone you love, who loves you back, who is capable of emotional reciprocity and can be there to help bring you out of the dark times. And I say help because ultimately you have to help yourself. A good person may throw you a life jacket in the water but you're going to have to swim to it, put it on, and go towards the rope in order to get out of this. It is possible but the irony is you have to literally fight against yourself to do it. I believe in you and you have to believe in you and that is where the concept of faith comes in. -FG

I needed to hear that, yes it's hard to hear and yes it's very painful but I need to love myself first!! Thank you!!

I'm sorry your going through this and your right we need to take care of ourselves first... I truly hope whatever the end result we are better for it... this support from everyone is really helpful and if you need to talk I'm here

Great post Family Guy except for the higher power
Part :) that i strongly believe in. Learning to love
yourself and increasing your own self esteem takes
a lot of work If you did not have a nurturing and
Loving upbringing. HUGS

We all have to go thru one bad relationship. It sucks how dirty they do it. We can't control that. Just means somebody else is out there for us. Im 37 and she's 43. I thought the older the woman I wouldn't have to worry the dirtbags I knew before wouldn't be an issue. Gues what...while I was working they been right under my nose..SCUMBAGS!!!

It's nice to read people reaching out. It's vday and I'm living with a woman of 7 years. She's been cheating for last 2 years as I find more out. So if anyone cares to share..i could use the help. Some people it's all sex. We all make mistakes but to continue to lie after I come back. Im no Angel but true compassion defines us from them. So is it true? The sexier the more problems? My experience...whos out here