It is. That is when your day winds down and when your spouse and self are together the most especially if have children. It is 1:45 am my time and I am up on here. Going to empty bed is frustrating even if you know you're better with out ex in life

I feel like mornings are the worst when you wake up and the whole thing is not some horrible dream.

Nights suck. I have very limited contact with my ex. She usually will break down once a week and we end up having a 2 hour phone conversation. Then nothing for another week. I am making conscious effort to NOT go out at night and work on myself. Very difficult at night though.

It is a horrible feeling I feel that everynight when my suppose to be fiancé would rather be out all night then home with me and the kids .

So glad I'm not the only one who feels that way. I guess it's also because at night, you don't have the daily distractions to keep you busy(work, driving, etc) and all of your thoughts catch up with you.

Wow-so glad this was brought up. Nights truly are terrible. Not only are there less distractions but sleeping with your mate is an intimate thing of it's own (totally separate from sex) so, sleeping alone is a drastic change. I hate it. I've been divorced a few months ago and I still haven't found a good way to sleep. It's hard to get to sleep anymore or I wake after just a few hours not feeling like things are right (we slept holding each other much of the night).
I've tried different positions, even used some sleep aids sparingly but don't want to depend on that. Heck, last night I slept on the couch-actually slept a bit better haha. I know it'll get better but this isn't even part of the mental hell of divorce, this is somewhat of a physical issue...really sucks at the moment....

And the thought that my STBX is in the arms of someone else drives me close to insanity.

Been 2 weeks since he walked away . He said he was going to stay single but then I find him on pof.
Looking for someone to couple up with.
I drank for 5 days couldn't eat panic attacks but now I've decided I do miss him still but haven't had a drink for 5 days just gonna concentrate on my family .I've done a lot of cleaning I must say. But I like to destract my self and now Christmas is on its way don't know how I'll feel then

For me the mornings are the worst because I wake up and have to re-live the heartache all over again because its my reality and not some horrible dream. At night, Im so drained from the non stop mental and emotional turmoil and physical burdens that come with it, all while functioning, that when I get in bed, I read the word and I fall out. This life suck that Im in is taking its toll and Im feeling accessively tired so I don't even have the energy to cry and think and go through those motions once Im in bed.. SMH God, help us!

Thiscantbeit-I hear ya...I went through a few months of the same turmoil. I lost weight-for the first time in my life I literally had no appetite yet I knew I should eat. I guess previous breakups have at least taught me that I will get on and life will work out. Grieve, start working on what's next in your life and start doing the work. Keep busy but also allow yourself some time to kick back however works best for you. But yeah, God help us...divorce is torture...

Nights, Mornings and afternoons!! My husband left me 4 days ago bc I saw a phone # on his phone that should NOT have been there! When I asked why he tried to lie and when he was backed against a wall he said I DON"T WANT TO BE WITH YOU!!!
Devastated is an understatement!! Don't know how I'm going to get through this!! 2 boys 7 & 9 who don't even know yet!!! and yes the HOLIDAYS coming just makes it that much harder!!! God bless u all & I hope this pain subsides for all of us!

I think it's because at the end of the night, you're tired and your emotions get the best of you.

Thank you Stardust7 - Hugs

Happiness is a state of mind, so the real source of happiness must lie within the mind, not in external conditions. If our mind is pure and peaceful we shall be happy, regardless of our external circumstances, but if it is impure and unpeaceful we can never be truly happy, no matter how hard we try to change our external conditions. We could change our home or our partner countless times, but until we change our restless, discontented mind we shall never find true happiness.

Easier said than done. I know that through meditation , a lot of it, I have been able to clam my mind at night. I don't watch TV ( I used too with my wife) or try to do some activities that just distract me. The source of peace comes from within. The hard news is that for me, it took moths of practice before I truly saw a drastic improvement. I relate it to exercise, the more I practice, the better my results.

Be well

Thank you Lookpastthehurt. Best piece of advice that I have seen here in a long time.