wait, whats the custody order for the kids? Who has full time rights?

We have joint custody we both have equal rights because the judge hasnt signed anything yet

It sounded like from your post that he is keeping them from you.

He is

Its a constant batle and evertime i get to see them if i say or do anything he dosent like he punishes them

We go to court on se

We go to court on sept 1 so maybe we will get something from judge then

Lawyer lawyer lawyer up.

And record everything. Every time he refused you access. Every time he " forgot". Every time you call and leave a message. The more you can do in writing ( email) the better.

Good luck, my heart is with you.

Oh lawyer done and i dont even try phone calls i have ever text that proves my case

I'm so happy that you have a lawyer. Now get a therapist. I'm not going through half of what you are and my therapist has been a godsend. Getting a divorce and battling with a crazy person (I do have one of those too) take a LOT of energy and thought. I found my therapist on Psychology Today's website. They have a place where therapists register. You put in your zip code and they will give you a list of therapists in your area. You can read about their backgrounds, their prices, what insurance they take, what they specialize in, etc. Call a few if you can and interview them over the phone. Pick the one you feel the most comfortable with.

Thanks for the info i will ck into that

I am also new to this website, after 18 years of marriage and 29 years together a few months ago my husband told me he wanted a divorce, that he had found someone at his job and that he wants her and that it is platonic(did not believe him). Needless to say, despair, betrayal, no words can describe how I felt. The worst part is that my Mom had bought the house next door and I have been living in it for the past 4 years because he did not want my family to come visit me, so here I am I live next door to him and tonight he had his girlfriend visit him. I was devastated but at the same time I remained calm. I know deep down that the divorce will be a blessing because I spent all these years unhappy yet just could not initiate the divorce. It is a painful process to say the least. My family is in another state but we communicate daily, I also have friends who are supporting me through this awful time.
Paralyzed by fear I still function. When I wake up I start my day with positive affirmations, I watch inspiring videos, listen to motivational speakers, PRAY. I also remembered that when my father died a few years ago the way I dealt with my grief was to volunteer. I plan to go back to volunteering during this difficult time and joining a support group. One day at a time, with a positive mindset, I also allow myself to feel the sadness, the feeling of being betrayed, angry, anxious. Once I can afford it, I will also seek some therapy. I will not give up, some days will be harder that is when it is vital to have moral support from family and friends. Tonight when I heard his girlfriend in the driveway I felt numb, I felt the panic attack coming and luckily I was able to calm myself down, called a friend and the anxiety faded away. Writing this email was good for me I hope that it helps anyone reading this message. Never give up, keep going after every hardship there is ease.

I agree, document everything. Make sure you continue your role as a parent. Make sure you continue to put forth efforts to see them, be with them and guide them. Record everything. I can't state how important that is

Oh yes. I just read the other posters comments. Positive affirmations to yourself is certainly needed. You need to make a concious effort to do this. Wake up in the morning and look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself what a good person you are. That you deserve happiness and are going to take some time today to make sure to get just that.

I started stating 10 things I am grateful for, every day. Even something that "seems" as small as I am grateful my dog is alive and breathing today. I am grateful my dog didn't get in to the trash while I was sleeping and leave land mines all over the house cus he got sick from it. Im grateful for the strength I found to not go out and punch that dude who deserved to be punched. and so on. :)

Well i finally talked to my oldest little girl last night hes not allowing my youngest to speak to me untill we go to court but i did at leadt get to speak to one of them so i know they both had a pretty good week