We're you or are you married? Not sure where your located but best way to stop that is take her to court for shared custody. Most judges won't like if a parent keeps the kid from other parent. I am in USA so guess it's all I know is my state but most judges want kids to see both parents. I am sorry you learned she was cheating. That has to be devastating:( it takes time really.

No we weren't married. I am in Houston, TX. She told my mom its becauae Im mentally unstable right now. And I need to show that I can be in a healthy state of mind before I.can be around him. She expects me to just "get over" it

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Even if you weren’t affectionate that doesn’t excuse her cheating. It’s called communication. And everything you are going thru is perfectly normal. You’re hurting and you need to give yourself time to heal. As far as her keeping your son from you.. I agree with Serenityspeaks..get family court involved. Just because you are in pain doesn’t make you unstable. Keep your head up...and be strong for your son.

Thank you for the support ane advice. My only issue and concern with involving the courts that my I have been in some trouble in my past and Im currently on probation for a felony DWI. She is a schoolteacher. Now imagine the picture she could paint of me because of my past. I always get judged by what I look like on paper. But they dont know the regret and remorse I feel in my heart from the mistakes that I have made

Felony DWI? Felony DWI, by definition, doesn't get probation.

Probation...the family courts are very unlikely to care. (Instead of giving you a jail sentence, the courts have decided to believe your 'promise to be good' and are going to watch you for a number of years.)

Parole...ask god...ie your parole officer. I doubt that you're under parole because if you were...you'd know that.

If you're still awaiting trial, then you're under neither parole nor probation, legally you're still innocent, the family courts are only likely to look at it if your son was in the car with you at the time of the violation (which is typically a separate child endangerment charge). If you hurt/killed someone, you're likely going to jail for years...custody is the least of your issues.

If no one was hurt, depending on the state and violation...then you may just get a heavy fine and will be under probabation (not parole).


Parole is what you get when you get out of prison after 5 years of a ten year sentence. The remaining 5 years is under "parole". Parole is essentially prison...outside of prison. As a convicted prisoner, you have no (well very few) constitutional rights. No rights to travel, speak, gather, search and seizure etc, etc, etc. You're "free" to say no to your parole officer and go back to jail and finish your sentence whenever you wish. As I said, people under parale...know that. How good or bad your life is, all depends on what your parole officer (ie god) says. If he wants you sitting in his office for 8 hours/day...that's what you're doing. He/she will tell you if it's okay to be around minors or not.

https://www.reentry.net/ny/help/item.2917-Parental_Rights

No, im 2 and a half years into a 5 year probabtion. It was a felony because my two sons were in the car. My PO is cool and Im doing everything I should with my probabtion. All im saying is I wouldnt have much leverage in a family court due to that. She would have all the leverage.

She still can't keep your son from you. If he was the kid in the car...it may not be so easy though.

If you've got the money, you should get a lawyer. And through all of this make sure that you're sending some amount of money to help support your child.

Best of luck

Check out the five love languages for singles by Gary Chapman and work on you. You'll find yourself in better relationships if you can learn how you need to be loved, and trust me this woman could not be loving you right of shes capable of leaving.