Sorry for your troubles. You are not alone. He deserves to get left, you deserve to move on and heal. Heard that sometimes 'saying no' as in boundaries, ending a relationship is the kindest thing for all. He needs to learn he cannot do what he did. There is a life lesson to learn. Up to him if he pays attention and learns it; maybe soon, maybe much later.

Take good care of yourself and your kids. Have compassion for you and your babies.

I am in an 11 yr abusive marriage as well. No kids. Know it's over. No getting through to him to be kind, warm, compassionate, caring. It seems to not get through. Fine.

I just always worry about finances, and being alone in that regard. So difficult to make it in this day and age. I have no children, so can't rely on public assistance (would if I could to get me through this).

Stick to why you left, since he's abused, don't go back. The cycle with suck you back in.

I know it's very hard.

Thank you I'm trying I have lost everything I live on my parent's floor. I feel like I felled in life. Thank you for listening. I'm also sorry about what your going through here if u would like to talk.

Thank you toughassteele,

I'm here if you wanna talk, too. Situations sound similar. At least you have left, I believe the worst is over and it can only get better from there !

I tried to leave a few times, then backed out and the cycle of abuse continued once again.

Wish I was strong enough and in a position to actually leave. I get weaker and more tired as time goes on ...

Hoping for a burst of energy so that I can leave too. Hard starting over. Thinking of all I have lost

I’m proud of you for leaving. And it’s great that you had some place to go. Right? Please don’t consider it a failure. This is just a turning point in life. I am learning to start over as well. But I am so glad you are safe and with your children.

Thank you it's just hard right now. Hope u all are OK and follow your heart

How did you know it was time to leave?

Well I knew he was cheating but I was scared that I would be alone because I had sea!l bad self esteem and my weight was a problem to but I went on a trip with some friends and we went on a boat I'm scared of boats so I went and did it any ways same with paireselling when I was up therein the sky I was like my fat butt go up here being over weight that's one reason I knew I could leave and be OK but he rid not make it easy he beat me for three months. Plus I have kids but the last night he tried killing me by choking me. If it wasn't for my oldest son coming outif his room I would have died. Its hard to leave but u have do what makes u happy.. Your better then that be strong

Your parent's floor sounds like heaven, compared to a husband's hands around your throat. This is a time of transition and you're gaining strength. I'm so happy to hear that taking yourself out of your comfort zone by going on a boat and parasailing was the thing that helped you realize you can do whatever you set your mind to. Keep it up!!

Yea it was scary but I'm so happy I did it. Thank you