Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Ex came over. They let him through the gate.
We did a chapter 13 bankruptcy the year before we separated. Part of the divorce thing was he would make the payments. The last time he got behind, it got canceled. He was able to get it reinstated with the understanding that the next time he got behind, that would be it. No reinstatement.
He got behind. So now we both have to file chapter 7. He's paying for it, but still...paperwork for me to do AND I have to come up here for some stupid reason-on a Tuesday. Dont know when yet. So, while talking to the lawyer bout all of this, I had to let them know I am moving and when and where.
Every time I pray for God to take the feelings I have for him away, something like this happens. Every time. And it hurts. It hurts so much to have to spend 30 minutes with him. It's like ripping the bandage off after having heart surgery. I'm never gonna be free of him...never...And I'm so upset by having to see him and be with him and talk to him. And he could tell I was upset.
God always coitusing with me
We did a chapter 13 bankruptcy the year before we separated. Part of the divorce thing was he would make the payments. The last time he got behind, it got canceled. He was able to get it reinstated with the understanding that the next time he got behind, that would be it. No reinstatement.
He got behind. So now we both have to file chapter 7. He's paying for it, but still...paperwork for me to do AND I have to come up here for some stupid reason-on a Tuesday. Dont know when yet. So, while talking to the lawyer bout all of this, I had to let them know I am moving and when and where.
Every time I pray for God to take the feelings I have for him away, something like this happens. Every time. And it hurts. It hurts so much to have to spend 30 minutes with him. It's like ripping the bandage off after having heart surgery. I'm never gonna be free of him...never...And I'm so upset by having to see him and be with him and talk to him. And he could tell I was upset.
God always coitusing with me
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hang in there. brighter days ahead.
I AM ROOTING FOR YOU!!!!
The only mail I get at the house is junk. All the important mail goes into my PO Box in the next little town.
By saying something like "never" is like you are effectively placing a constraint/limit on yourself and make yourself unable to do anything about it. some things in life takes time to cut it off completely
Same old same old. I wonder what #4 thinks about all this. No I don't. I'm sure he's told her all kinds of bs that makes it everyone's fault but his.
Every time I pray for God to take this man out of my life (not in a bad way), the guy pops up on my doorstep. EVERY TIME. It never fails.
One time, we had been apart for 2 years and I was praying for God to take away the love I had for this man. To help me get over him. The next day, the man called me. We had not spoken in 2 years.
I'm not a big believer in coincidences. All kinds of things like this have happened between the two of us for years. I dont believe in coincidences.
So maybe examine how you are actually wording your pleas and prayers to God. Maybe the way you are asking is causing these challenges to keep on coming into your life so that you can learn to let it go, and achieve the triumph of not allowing your ex to influence how you feel.
Last night I was reading the stuff on what I need to do for my share of the chapter 7. I find out that when the papers are filed, my bank account becomes non-exempt assets. I have a retirement check that gonna hit that account next week. So I texted him to get with the lawyer and FIX that problem!
And we were off. He got all pissed off, I guess he thought I was not going to cooperate with the chapter 7 stuff. Which was NOT what I said. He starts accusing me of being revengeful and trying to get even with him to fix the hole in my heart. If he would have said that to my face I'd a punched him.
I have never ever ever tried to "get even" or get revenge. I told him if I did, he would for SURE know about it. Sigh. He's never been the kind to throw out insults like that. Never. It was like being stabbed in the back all over again.
In retrospect, I think its a defense mechanism. I had told him that he caused the problem, he should fix it, not me. And he can never accept or acknowledge that anything is his fault.
He finally apologized and we worked things out I guess. He kept saying we need to work together and God wants us to be victorious. I didnt know whether to throw up or tell him to go to hell. I really wanted to punch him.