sounds like a really really bad day.

HUGS

hang in there. brighter days ahead.

I AM ROOTING FOR YOU!!!!

Honey, I know how hard it is. Just be gentle with yourself. Please. Do you have to be there with him in the same room. When I had a mediation with that stbx, we were is different rooms. Why was he allowed to come through the gates. I made it very clear to the security that I do not want anyone to come up without my explicit okay. Hugs and prayers.

You are stronger than you realize. While this caught you by suprise you will recover. He may know you are moving but he won't have your address. Get a post office box and he will never know for sure where you are living.

The only mail I get at the house is junk. All the important mail goes into my PO Box in the next little town.

You'll get by. Just hang in there.

BIG Hug! Thank God we have daily streanth in times like these too help us thru things like this ! I think sometimes Id relly be lost without it during times like these cause we all understand eachother here and unfortunetly are all feeling this pain in diffrent ways diffrent stories but here we are now, we need to focus on how too get too feeling better (((hugs))) hang in there !

It has really knocked me for a loop. Like starting all over again from scratch.

just take it as things from the past has spilled over to the present. past cannot be undone and this spilling over is somthing you cannot do anything about. all you can do is change your attitude (the way you view things) so that its less painful for you.
By saying something like "never" is like you are effectively placing a constraint/limit on yourself and make yourself unable to do anything about it. some things in life takes time to cut it off completely

After reading through the rules, etc about filing my part of the chapter 7, I may not have to worry about the future, cause I may kill him. He has totally screwed things up for me unless the bankruptcy lawyer can fix a couple of problems.

Same old same old. I wonder what #4 thinks about all this. No I don't. I'm sure he's told her all kinds of bs that makes it everyone's fault but his.

I am so sorry to hear of this new trouble. God does not "coitus" with us. He only brings us to things that are meant to strengthen us, and he is there to help us through them. Sometimes the old things have to be completely wiped away, in order for us to receive the new and better things that God has in store for us. If you have to be there, pray. Pray for guidance, strength and grace. You can get through this. Stay strong in yourself and God.

you don't understand. Every time I pray for God to take away the love I have for this man, the opposite happens. The man back in to my life. EVERY TIME.

Every time I pray for God to take this man out of my life (not in a bad way), the guy pops up on my doorstep. EVERY TIME. It never fails.

One time, we had been apart for 2 years and I was praying for God to take away the love I had for this man. To help me get over him. The next day, the man called me. We had not spoken in 2 years.

I'm not a big believer in coincidences. All kinds of things like this have happened between the two of us for years. I dont believe in coincidences.

I hope you can just hang in there. Some days just suck. And then they pass. My ex is in and out of my life and it makes it hard. But each day I get a little stronger. Sending you hugs and good thoughts. Crying makes me feel better too. And ice cream!

We have to be careful how we ask God for things.....for instance if we ask God to give us patience, He sends us trials so that we can learn the patience.

So maybe examine how you are actually wording your pleas and prayers to God. Maybe the way you are asking is causing these challenges to keep on coming into your life so that you can learn to let it go, and achieve the triumph of not allowing your ex to influence how you feel.

I am new to the group and hope my comments can be helpful. First I am so sorry that you are hurting like this! Belief it or not I had prayed the same prayer with similar results. It is like he has radar and knows I am getting stronger and here he comes. But I don't blame it on God. I see now as I am getting stronger that it is those things that have made me deal with and face my true feelings. My feelings haven't changed but man I sure have! Cry and scream if you need to and try to work through it. :)

I would probably stop praying to God to take your love away.

Why? The last thing I want to do is keep loving this man. WHICH!
Last night I was reading the stuff on what I need to do for my share of the chapter 7. I find out that when the papers are filed, my bank account becomes non-exempt assets. I have a retirement check that gonna hit that account next week. So I texted him to get with the lawyer and FIX that problem!
And we were off. He got all pissed off, I guess he thought I was not going to cooperate with the chapter 7 stuff. Which was NOT what I said. He starts accusing me of being revengeful and trying to get even with him to fix the hole in my heart. If he would have said that to my face I'd a punched him.
I have never ever ever tried to "get even" or get revenge. I told him if I did, he would for SURE know about it. Sigh. He's never been the kind to throw out insults like that. Never. It was like being stabbed in the back all over again.
In retrospect, I think its a defense mechanism. I had told him that he caused the problem, he should fix it, not me. And he can never accept or acknowledge that anything is his fault.
He finally apologized and we worked things out I guess. He kept saying we need to work together and God wants us to be victorious. I didnt know whether to throw up or tell him to go to hell. I really wanted to punch him.