Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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summerbabe88 02/26/2013

It's been a hellllllish two weeks ....

I have cried so much and I feel like the world is moving on without me.

My pet hamster (yes, hamster :) ) has passed away this weekend, I went to go pet her and give her kisses and her poor little body was cold and not moving. I bawled my eyes out, she was my baby! She snuggled with me, hung out with me, and when my boyfriend and I broke up last week she let me hold her close while I cried....I miss her so much...

I just miss myself...I was so happy...I never got that closure from my ex and i miss him so much. he made it seem like we would be together for a long time...i just cant stop feeling the pain.

please help.

deleted_user 02/26/2013

you will be happy again eventually but right now you have been hurt very badly. do you have some girlfriends to go out with? just being with them will help quite a bit.

people with anxiety need good support from their family and friends. they will really help you adjust through this hard time.

blondebombshell22 02/26/2013

I know how painful loss is and even though it seems like the pain will never go away, eventually it has to get better. I've found that letting myself feel the emotions/crying is the only way to work towards healing. I also have been doing yoga/meditation to help calm me down and to try to change my thinking to more positive thoughts. I enjoy listening to music, but I've found that sometimes it puts me in a worse mood because it reminds me of my STBX husband/memories. Hang in there, and know that there are a lot of people here that care and will offer support!

ChiTownBear 02/26/2013

I am sorry about your hamster, to lose a pet can hurt probably even worse then the breakup itself. I know as I lost my puppy of 14 years shortly after me and my ex split.

The world will go on without you if you choose to stand still. Its understandable why you feel like you do and you may never get that closure from him. Whether you do get that closure or not, you have to find that closure within yourself. Many of us had to go that route ourselves.

Feel what you do right now and continue to take care of yourself and be patient. Don't let this define you tho and allow life to continue to go on without you.

many blessings your way.

summerbabe88 02/26/2013

thank you so much for the kind words.. :) i'm trying super hard to move past this all and hope to come out a better person. i was once told that if you are single it is because God is busy writing your love story. :)

deleted_user 02/26/2013

you don't need to be a better person. we think that you are just fine the way that you already are. :)

ChiTownBear 02/26/2013

thats a good way to look at it and to me, God has already written the story, you are just living it out.

Stay strong, be who you are, love yourself as many others do.

deleted_user 02/27/2013

(((((Summerbabe88)))))

Ive been feeling similar lately. I hope you feel better really, really soon.

jaclyn1973 02/27/2013

I'm sorry about your hamster. I know very well how it hurts when a pet dies-especially when you consider it more than a pet. I don't know how I'd get through all this without my dog. all I can tell you is put one foot in front of the other. When you fall, and you will, get back up and continue to put one foot in front of the other. Eventually you will come out on the other side.
If you can, bite the bullet and do something totally out of the ordinary for you. Get a massage or a manicure. Find some new interests. Push the envelope a little. It's so easy to stay in our ruts but it isnt good for us. Take care.

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