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Need some advice please

Sadlonelychic
Sadlonelychic

I have a dilemma and need some advice. My soon to be ex husband is thinking he can stay living in the house that i bought until the house he bought with his new girlfriend is ready to move in to.  I told him to go ahead and move out since he has a place to stay but refuses to leave since he has to take his kids from his previous marriage there also. He is driving a car that is in my name and when i ask for the keys, he refuses to hand them over until the divorce is finalized. We have 2 kids together and wants them to live with him and i would only be able to see them on my one day off, every other weekend, and maybe on other nights if it is ok with him. I really need help from others who have been through this. 

serenityspeaks
serenityspeaks
You guys need a custody order if not agreeing judge will order it. Its just a process and really everything will be done through court with him needing to move, custody, property etc. Trying to fight too much when he wont budge wont help. Sorry sounds messy.
sjs777
sjs777
you definitely have rights and should have the upper hand in many respects. I agree, this will prove incredibly difficult to resolve on your own without a court order
jojored
jojored
Is your divorce to be finalized soon? He sounds like he's very adept at looking out for himself. If it's YOUR house you bought with your own funds, and only your name is on the deed, he should be OUT. If he has a girlfriend he's planning on moving in with, he should be out. If he doesn't have his own transportation, tough luck to him - rent a car. But, unless you have these things written down in a divorce decree, good luck getting him to do the right things. Even with a decree, some spouses don't do what the judge has ordered (that's my situation). Many times our only recourse is the courts post-divorce- if you have the money and time to go there. Sometimes we don't and have to live with more crap from our ex's. Whatever happens, take deep breaths and try to look at the long term - you and your kids in your new home, peaceful, content.

If you're just starting the divorce process, just know that lots of false bravado comes out in people. He can claim whatever he wants, doesn't mean he'll get it. My ex said he'd get full custody, he'd never pay me a cent of alimony, blah, blah, wah, wah. In the end, he only asked for visitation every other weekend (doesn't even do that) and has alimony obligations until he retires. Big words from a big fat liar mean nothing.

If you're just starting the divorce process and he's saying he's going to get the kids and all that
antaresmom
antaresmom
I am confused ,do you 2 have kids together as well as his kids from previous marriage,or is it just the 2 kids from other marriage?? As far as car goes if you are first on loan,you can have his name removed from loan,and co tinue payments or switch everything over to his name and take yours off,this way he is responsible for everything with car.
Sadlonelychic
Sadlonelychic
We have 2 kids together plus 2 kids from previous. The loan is only in my name and the car is only in my name as well.
jojored
jojored
Are lawyers involved at all?
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