Ok, here's the story. I was married to this man for 16 years, together for almost 18 when after two great kids, a home and what I thought was a pretty good life I discovered he was addicted to cocaine. He kept it hidden so well. Spend the last year we were together going from individual, to group, to intensive outpatient treatment for him to get off the cocaine and get back to our lives. He never put forth any effort to address his problems and after he got kicked out of Intensive Treatment Program, I asked him to move out. Or rather the two kids then 12,18, and I asked him to move out. He put us through pure hell that last year. I think my kids and I cried everyday. Took us a year each in therapy to come around to normal aspects of life again. Long story short here, he and I have been separated for a year and a half now. We rarely speak, he saw the kids (visually)last week for the first time in almost a year. I have them 24/7 and my son, the youngest, still refuses to even attempt to speak to him. I have presented him with separation papers on 3 occasions and he refuses to sign them. I can't afford a lawyer , God I am doing good to keep a roof over our head and food on the table. Child support has been when he feels like it and the amount he feels like giving and then it is only because I show up at his work on pay day. Here's where I need the advice and thanks for sticking me this long but felt you needed the whole story. I called him and asked him to meet me for dinner. Probably the second most decent conversation we have had since separating. It is so over for me. I have had a year and a half to deal with everything and I don't want him back AT ALL. I just want to move on and the signed papers will help me do that. What advice do you give about how I can make him understand this and encourage him to sign the papers? Do I be completely honest with him and tell him I want to go on with my life, I want to go out and make new friends and live again? I feel like I am tied to a lead weight without any protection. The paper spell out child support, custody and other aspects that will allow me to live without fear of him. Thanks for reading! Offer me a suggestion, I need the help
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