For me that is an egoistic person, but what do I know about psychological diagnose? Not much to be honest.

In plain terms they are full of themselves, self centered the world revolves around them you are there to serve them for all of there needs and desires. They will stop at nothing to for there quest to fullfill there needs. They dont care who's live they destory who they spit on who they stab in the back to get there desires and needs full filled. Rather it be sex, money, or you perform task for them its always about there needs. Nothing eles matters. Seems to be and epademic of these bastards out there now days.

The only thing I will add is that the N personality has emotional states that appear infantile. It is a bizarre thing to witness. At one moment they are very excited and enthusiastic about a plan or event, the next 9if it is not going the way they expected, they have a melt down or a temper tantrum that resembles a 2 year old.

My ex has many of the traits and experienced some of the same incidents as the others above. I also dated a man briefly, who is textbook. I have witness some bizarre emotional reactions from both.
And somehow, when you are in their presence, your the one who feels like a crazy person.

Chi is right, the list of criteria need to be life long, and pervasive ( with every relationship) it is how they operate in the world. It is a disorder of the personality, and the personality is formed in early childhood.

It would not be something that only shows up part way through a marriage or in a certain phase in life.

People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder are different than just your run of the mill jerk in the following ways:

- a PROFOUND lack of empathy
- an inability to grow to any true emotional or spiritual depth
- an inability to consistently sustain positive change
- an inability to have insight about how one's behavior negatively affects others

If you are wondering whether your ex had it, here's a few questions to ask yourself.

Did you feel regularly baffled or confused by his behavior? Did you start feeling like you couldn't trust your own judgement or that you might be losing your mind? When you tried to resolve a disagreement, did you feel like a dog chasing its own tail because he was more concerned about avoiding blame than resolving anything? Did he seem like Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde because he could be a wonderful man when he wanted something from you and then turned into a monster after his needs were met. Was he obsessed with money, power, and/or sex? Did he talk about his skills or accomplishments as though he was a brain surgeon or deserved the nobel prize? Was he more concerned about the opinion of other people than about your feelings? Did he ignore rules or laws as though they applied to other people and not to him? Did he behave as though he is more important than other people (e.g. unacceptable to have to wait in line, traffic, crowds, etc.)? Did he ever make statements about himself that indicated he believed he was speical or superior to other people? Does he view women in a conflicting way that shows both disdain and desire?

I could go on and on....

yep, thats my exS fo sho


(sad)

Wow those definitions of narcissim were fantastic. During this divorce process my counselor has suggested that my husband is a true narcissist. He meets every single one of those criteria. I even caught him with pictures and at a woman's house and on the porch he lied and lied and justified and blamed and it was just ridiculous. I was standing ON HER PORCH. He was always like that,,,always his way. He was always right, always had the best ideas and aspirations-but could never make them happen. Just mind-boggling thas I was with him for so long. It was a poor, sad example to the children that he now ignores as if they do not exist.

check out -narcissist victims syndrome survivors--victims of psychopaths sociopaths--recovering adult children of narcissistis parents-----all on DS ----as you read these you might hear your self say OMG------

JessicaGM:
Oh yes! The LIES! My all-time eye roller was when I confronted my runaway H (now X) with a receipt from a luxury hotel suite in NYC where he spent Christmas Eve and Christmas Day with the OW. He said, "It's NOT what you think!"

I laughed in his face...took that damning evidence all the way to court and took HIM to the cleaners!.

CowgirlKathi: I am in the process of protecting me and the children from further psychological harm from this man that I should never have allowed in my life in the first place...they are so smooth-those people whose purpose is to manipulate. There is very little to 'take to the cleaners' and I am just having trouble getting child support from him. I am trying to set up enforcement of that now-because he does not care about them anymore.

I am definitely married to one. He is so low key that it was hard to connect everything until I started the divorce. Then everything dropped right into place.

Sometimes they are not so obvious. I always wondered why I made no friends. We moved a lot and the ex was turning down invitations and saying it was me that didn't socialize.

He told the lies of an 8 year old little boy that weren't worth checking on. Until he felt entitled to comitt bigamy and not tell me I was sharing him with someone else.

When I read up on Narcissism it all fell into place. So many little silly things he did that seemed minor were one big problem.

The thing you have to realize is they get worse as they age. They are afraid of getting old and that's why he is now married to someone twenty years younger than him.

There is no fixing them. No way to make them well and whole. I've seen a Narcissistic rage a few times in my 33 year marriage. Not a pretty thing to go thru. The lies, the manipulation, the serial cheating, the entitlement he hid from me and let it out at work. Too much

I lucked into a therapist who treated people with Narcissism. He was the one who told me the ex had probably married while he was overseas. He had and we are now divorced.

right...the rages....

ugh

I am so glad I'm out.

My husband was diagnosed with NPD also- during our brief counseling. After that, of course, he didn't want to go back because he knew it wasn't true- you see he knows all there is to know about everything. What a truly difficult individual to live with let alone make a marriage with. As we got older and the kids growing up, we didn't have the distraction of them anymore to buffer the reality of our situation, so now he walks away and blames me for his inability to be a real human being with real feelings, his lack of values, and lack of attachment to his wife. oh well, i still care but can't do it alone. that is the word that seems to follow me everywhere- AlonE, even when he is here I am still alone. So sad. I wish you luck... it's a bumpy road....

Yep Kathy, nothing is there fault and they don'tunderstand how come you and the world don'tuderstand their screwed up thinking and agree with them with a happy face and say to them, you are the master, and YES YOU ARE RIGHT as always. :)

Admiration for all their worng doings, but remember only you and world know about the wrong doing, for them they did it by keeping only your interest in mind.

They are one very manipulative individual who looks after themselves only.....