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My story... the sickness that is destroying me..

distarr
distarr

I was in a relationship with a psychopath dor three years, I have ptsd and suffer daily with flashbacks and major depression.


I have read as many articles as I can find on psychopaths, that does help explain a lot of behaviors and abuse that I have suffered, what is making me sick the most is the horrible guilt and the ripping of my soul, I fell in love with someone who was very abusive physically and emotionally, I am lucky to have survived, this man got off on seeing me in pain and literally tried to drive me crazy, would always project everything he did onto me and made it my fault so much so I even started to doubt myself in all aspects.


Yet it’s like an obsession I can not break at times I do wonder how he is and long for the fantasy of what I once had in the beginning it was probably fake on his behalf because they are no doubt predators, a wolf in sheeps clothing, how anyone can be so evil still blows my mind...


In every survivors story I read they say no contact and time will heal me, sometimes I wonder if I will ever heal this place where I am is complete darkness and no one understands unless they have been here so I have no one to talk to about this except for my therapist who I see once a week but that’s not enough when this is on my mind 24/7, it’s comparable to an addiction but there is nothing to ease the pain, I have promised myself this time I can not go back for my sanity, soul, self respect because I lost it all with him, I know it’s going to take a lot of time and dedication to self love in which I never have had, I often wonder why fate put us together what I have realized is I needed self discovery and to stop being in denial, some days I don’t think I will make it but others I have strength, I do know I deserve a better life than that, I have empathy, compassion and the ability to love which he will never have.... 

CD73
CD73
It's sad that what bothers me about this, is that I'm sure he won't ever try to come back. I think of way I can knock him down a notch, but the next minute I miss him. I've been trying to get into therapy, but either it's too expensive, or they don't have evening hours, or they don't call me back. It does help that I know that it isn't just me. Stay strong everybody. I'm trying. I tell myself "I got through yesterday, I'll get through today."
distarr
distarr
belive me you are lucky if he doesn’t come back, that will give you time away and that will give you the opportunity to grow, when they come back it’s just this sick twisted mind fuck! I hope he leaves me alone and I never see him again because eventually they will get out of your mind I know you probably don’t think it’s possible right now but it is, there is room on here for you to vent that’s what I love about this, place because it is at least for me very lonely and isolating most of the times, no one understands how I can miss someone who abused me but it’s the control and the brainwashing made me question my own sanity I always thought I could fix him because I loved him so much, but now I know without a doubt they can’t be fixed and they will never change and I’m trying to get threw day by day without thinking of him because that just keeps him in control and I refuse to let that happen anymore! And you will make it each second each minute each day you will become stronger, yes of course we will have days when we feel weak, cry let your feelings out you will make it!