Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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joybells 02/26/2008

I am finally into my new place.My STBX called me yesterday while I was at my mom's.I didn't give him my home phone number.He called on my cell phone and wanted to spend the day together Thursday.Well,I have cut the ties with him.I am ready to move on but he isn't.There is no hope for us getting back together again.When I am ready to start dating again then I want someone who really cares about me.My STBX never did.Now I just want him to leave me alone.Is it wrong to feel this way?I don't think so.

deleted_user 02/26/2008

not wrong at all!a clean break is best,and don't you feel so much better in your own place?i sure did...

deleted_user 02/26/2008

Be very proud of yourself that you've moved on and that you KNOW that your husband offers you very little in the good stuff. You are ahead of me in this divorce struggle.

No, it is not wrong to feel as you do. It's wrong to feel one way and live another....and you are not doing that!

Hug

deleted_user 02/26/2008

Tell him you do not want him to contact you any more. it is over. Make a clean break--it is best.

deleted_user 02/26/2008

Good for you. In my experience it's much healthier to make the clean break. I changed my cell phone number, disconnected the house phone and blocked my husband from emailing me. He screwed me so SCREW HIM!!

deleted_user 02/26/2008

Good for you. It sounds like you are getting yourself together and moving forward. This is excellent. You can't control what or how he thinks and it is critical that you look after you. We often get stuck looking back and wondering but the key is to only glance back and keep looking forward. Good for you.

deleted_user 02/26/2008

He wants to spend the day together? What the heck. I just don't get these people!!!

No you are not wrong to feel as if he should just leave you alone. I don't know your story, but it was easier for me when I finally told him not to contact me unless I contacted him first.

You do what is good for you, and the hell with him.

deleted_user 02/26/2008

You are doing the right thing to limit contact or have no contact.. That is what I have done with my ex and it is working quite well a year later.. good luck to you, Kimmee

joybells 02/26/2008

I think that if he really wanted to be with me then he would have stopped the behavior that caused me to leave in the first place.He hasn't done that and I have moved on.I'm not ready to date yet but I don't want to have anything to do with him either.This is my time.

MsBlank1 02/26/2008

I'm giving you a standing ovation!!!! You go girl!!! I too cut off everything with my stbx.He never had my computer e-mail address(can't read or write anyways),and he only has my cell phone which he never calls(can't be bothered)unless he wants something!!!hhhmmm.Much hasn't changed since I left.So I cheer you on((((hugs)))))) keep strong and enjoy your new place,and freedom.

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