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was strung out......
My son and I havent seen him in a year a half. He had visitation this past week with my son as he was on winter break from school.
My ex mother in law is the one who pushes for the visitation. If it werent for her...my ex would probably never see him at all....but she rides him.
Its a 6 hour drive for each of us to meet half way. We agreed upon our time..and he showed up an hour and a half late to pick him up. Needless to say, I was NOT happy about that, but enjoyed my extra time with my son while we waited.
My son did not want to stay as long as my ex had planned...but the first day my son was there (he is 10) he told his dad he was coming home a day early. My ex didnt argue....and Im proud of my son for standing up for himself.
The night before I had to pick my son up, my ex called to say that he lost a few "things" his kindle charger, a book, etc. He was high when I talked to him. I LIVED with an addict for 10 years... I KNOW that tone of voice and slur.... I know it sounds crazy...but I always know...his inflection and voice changes. I know what THAT sounds like.
Completely helpless to get my son...800 miles away... I was furious with him for subjecting him to that.
I went to pick him up.....another 6 hour drive there....and he was high then too. His mother tagged along for the drive...well...he made HER drive... and while Im GRATEFUL for that..... ugh...just ugh...
And yep....showed up an hour and a half late AGAIN. They had to "stop" and visit his girlfriend at the cell phone store to get a cell phone plan for his mother. Seriously?????
Its safe to say that I HATE that man...
And I cant believe my son and I have to keep going through this.
Im so angry with him, Im beside myself......
Thanks for listening....
My son and I havent seen him in a year a half. He had visitation this past week with my son as he was on winter break from school.
My ex mother in law is the one who pushes for the visitation. If it werent for her...my ex would probably never see him at all....but she rides him.
Its a 6 hour drive for each of us to meet half way. We agreed upon our time..and he showed up an hour and a half late to pick him up. Needless to say, I was NOT happy about that, but enjoyed my extra time with my son while we waited.
My son did not want to stay as long as my ex had planned...but the first day my son was there (he is 10) he told his dad he was coming home a day early. My ex didnt argue....and Im proud of my son for standing up for himself.
The night before I had to pick my son up, my ex called to say that he lost a few "things" his kindle charger, a book, etc. He was high when I talked to him. I LIVED with an addict for 10 years... I KNOW that tone of voice and slur.... I know it sounds crazy...but I always know...his inflection and voice changes. I know what THAT sounds like.
Completely helpless to get my son...800 miles away... I was furious with him for subjecting him to that.
I went to pick him up.....another 6 hour drive there....and he was high then too. His mother tagged along for the drive...well...he made HER drive... and while Im GRATEFUL for that..... ugh...just ugh...
And yep....showed up an hour and a half late AGAIN. They had to "stop" and visit his girlfriend at the cell phone store to get a cell phone plan for his mother. Seriously?????
Its safe to say that I HATE that man...
And I cant believe my son and I have to keep going through this.
Im so angry with him, Im beside myself......
Thanks for listening....
i was with an addict for 4.5 years and unfortunately i was schooled quickly on what that means... 2 years later i still have "flashbacks" of sorts. it is something that can only be understood if you have walked in those shoes, which of course is soemthing you wouldn't wish on anyone.
i am sorry.. i can only imagine with kids involved. but you did the right thing. it is what it is... he is the dad and he is an addict.
i hear you and i can appreciate what you have to say.
again, hugs.
I know you have enough love for your son to make up for his dad's lack of care... so he's still a lucky kid. :)
(((((((((((((((Namaste)))))))))))))))
I FEAR so badly for his safety while he is with him...and the legal system bites...
Its scary....really really scary. :(
Im SO grateful my son is home...and know I need to focus on that...
I hope we dont have to go through this again...its killing me...
Namaste....
hang in there he is slowing crashing. you will have to keep your head in the interim.
Does your son know what signs to look for when his dad is on drugs? I'm just asking because your son may have to advocate for himself while there, as in saying, "No, Dad. I won't ride in the car with you."
If there is any silver lining in this, it is your ex doesn't seem to spend much time with your son. That can be a blessing in this case.
Sending hugs!