Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I have lived in this apartment since my separation from my ex spouse in 2010. I lived there 2 yrs but am now moving out. Amazing but i thought i threw away everything that had to do with him but there was ONE box apparently i never looked through and i did last nite as i was packing up boxes for the move. There was my wedding video and a picture of us in 2005 together; happy (so i thought). I almost cried but held back the tears cause he is not worth it. It seems so unreal still even after 2 yrs that he did what he did to us and his family. Sometimes i dont think i will ever get over the pain and the deceit. Yes it has gotten better but the pain is still inside of me. Sometimes i still think he is laughing out there at me having the ball of his life while i still struggle with moving forward. Should i burn the video like i did everything else? i think i should.
These days, I try not to make any decisions i don;t have to. I'm still an emotional mess and my "thinking cap" is nowhere to be found. I just deal with those things that are time sensitive and important.
My recommendation, put the box in the bottom of a closet and forget about it.
Throw that SHIT away. All it does is brings back the good memories and then you forgot why you broke up and then it makes you feel terrible (exactly like how you explained it). It makes it that much harder to move on.
If anything, you need something to remind you of what he did to you. That way, it will give you the strength to move on.
Not true in most cases.