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My oldest step-daughter (17 years old) was helping my biological daughter and me move this weekend. She clearly acted and looked upset. I asked what was wrong and she said, "My mom and (name of loser baby daddy) are gross, they are telling people that they just met that they're married." I said that's ok, they can be whatever they want to be, I really shouldn't care anymore. Maybe when our divorce is final, they might actually get married and be a 'real' family to (name of youngest step-daughter)," who is loser BF's biological daughter.
She then replied, "But my mom is wearing the wedding ring she wore when YOU guys were married!"
I was taken aback but not entirely surprised. That loser either can't afford to buy her a ring or just figured "Why spend money on a ring when she's already got a nice one?"
Oh well, my wife's disgusting behavior continues...
For those confused about biological vs. step-daughters, quick summary:
She has 3 daughters from 2 different men. 1 is the father of 2, who she was married to and the other is just a baby daddy, who she never married because she said he was a loser, didn't have a job, smoked and sold weed and at 35, still lived with his parents. Fast forward to today, he's still the same way, but now he's 44 (still living with parents).
As for me, I have 1 biological daughter (16 years old) from a previous marriage.
She then replied, "But my mom is wearing the wedding ring she wore when YOU guys were married!"
I was taken aback but not entirely surprised. That loser either can't afford to buy her a ring or just figured "Why spend money on a ring when she's already got a nice one?"
Oh well, my wife's disgusting behavior continues...
For those confused about biological vs. step-daughters, quick summary:
She has 3 daughters from 2 different men. 1 is the father of 2, who she was married to and the other is just a baby daddy, who she never married because she said he was a loser, didn't have a job, smoked and sold weed and at 35, still lived with his parents. Fast forward to today, he's still the same way, but now he's 44 (still living with parents).
As for me, I have 1 biological daughter (16 years old) from a previous marriage.
She is showing the world how little her promises mean. So sorry. You deserve better and it will come.
As far as seeing red flags - yes, they were there, but it sounds like you were willing to not judge her on her past. People make mistakes and sometimes learn from them. I have also learned, the hard way, that cheaters are expert liars and deceivers, thus putting us at a disadvantage as far as making informed decisions about choosing our spouses. Please don't beat yourself up over it.