Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Selene 09/11/2016

My husband and I were together for 10 years so it makes sense to miss him... The hard part now is forcing myself to not reach out to him, not ask how he is or how our (now his) dog is doing...I've done it a few times and it just hurts how easy this appears to be for him.

The only good that comes from it is reassurance I made the right decision, I just wish our divorce would move quicker. But if this is the pace I have to deal with in order for it to have a modicum of decency and fairness than I guess it's worth it. Still difficult but worth it.

I'm hoping at some point I'll learn how to sleep again and I'm thankful for every opportunity to be with friends and family. I spent the last two days with my god children and it was the happiest I've been in weeks. Tomorrow I get to see my best friend of 20 years back in my home town, and that will help tremendously too.m

i hope everyone else that is out there tonight, having a tough time...I hope you know it will get better if you want it to. The first step to change is always the hardest but I have to believe it is worth it in the long run because otherwise what is the point? Stay strong even if you have to fake t to make it and per my daily calendar, know "You are someone's reason to smile".

Jon 09/11/2016

Hey I hear you, I can't even imagine how hard it'd be to lose someone after 10 years just damn wow. I can only imagine how much pain you must be in, I know if he was toxic or abusive then it's only sensible to move on, especially after 10 years... But I'm sure you must've loved him very much to stay with him that long. It means you're a good person who has been taken advantage of.

Hold your head up, things will get better, you seem like an extremely positive and caring person. I only wish you the absolute best.

Minidogs2 09/11/2016

Good attitude and good choices. Keep going forward investing in healthy relationships. Very wise to not act on any desires to talk with him. It will get easier as you keep the door of communication shut unless you have to talk with him about some practical issue. I like the advice from my divorce care group to remember FIB, Which means keep it brief, informational and friendly .

KCxo 09/11/2016

Know how you feel lovely and its a horriable feeling, to love someone but also hate them... our hearts play with our head so much. But you seems so rational and strong and like you are getting through this and not letting it beat you. You are an amazing women to get through something so tuff i only wish i had your courage and strength xxx

Selene 09/11/2016

@Jon thank you for saying that. I did love him with all my being and I still care for him deeply. I was willing to stay with him forever even though I was so unhappy and regularly emotionally abused but then one day I just had enough and I'm satisfied I gave it everything I could but sad a decade of my life is over and it involved so much pain. I try to remember the happy times but it's all difficult. Thanks again

Selene 09/11/2016

@minidogs2 wow that is good advice. Keep it friendly, informational and brief. I'm going to have to write that down as a reminder and post it with my positive affirmations. Thanks!

Selene 09/11/2016

@kcxo girl, I sent you a message but to sum it up, my strength is here today but it's not an every day thing. I'm lucky this time around (didn't have it when we separated in 2012), I have a support system. I wouldn't have even been able to leave without it and if you don't have one yourself, I will be here for you. And so will anyone else in this group. You can get through this moment in your life for better or worse. If you don't have your own courage and strength right now, I will share mine in any way I can.

MsMissy 09/12/2016

Oh Selene I totally understand. The person I thought I would grow old with has now ended our relationship again after 13 years. I married him twice and divorced him twice. Some days I feel strong, like I can see so much light in my future but other days I feel so defeated, hurt and lost.
I try to tell myself every morning that I can do this, life is going to be wonderful even without him. I have hope, I keep forcing myself to be positive, find things to constantly keep my mind occupied.
We still live together while he is trying to find a place to live, the urge to cry out for him is so strong but....LIFE MUST GO ON!!

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