Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
My ex and I have been separated since before Xmas. On March 16th he made the final decision that he wanted a divorce. He said he would rather be by himself. I did all but beg for him to try counseling for the sake of my son. He refused to.
Well a month rocks along with me expecting to get served papers any day. Nothing. I finally confronted him last week because I am so tired of being in limbo. He has threatened me with divorce with every argument for the last nine years, so I'm over it.
So this week he approaches me and his conversation went like this, "I did what you asked and signed the papers. I know you have been wanting this and so hopefully your nightmare will soon to be over. I am sorry."
Then he ducked his head and walked off.
What the heck?!?! What "I" wanted?? He couldn't have cared less a month ago about my thoughts or feelings.
I don't know what he's thinking and really don't care, but I'm so totally sick of his games.
Well a month rocks along with me expecting to get served papers any day. Nothing. I finally confronted him last week because I am so tired of being in limbo. He has threatened me with divorce with every argument for the last nine years, so I'm over it.
So this week he approaches me and his conversation went like this, "I did what you asked and signed the papers. I know you have been wanting this and so hopefully your nightmare will soon to be over. I am sorry."
Then he ducked his head and walked off.
What the heck?!?! What "I" wanted?? He couldn't have cared less a month ago about my thoughts or feelings.
I don't know what he's thinking and really don't care, but I'm so totally sick of his games.
Getting real about his choices and actions now will really benefit him and his future more than you. But denial is his choice for now....nothing you can do about that but help your son understand and deal how is dad is and how to deal with him.
You certainly know what you need for yourself and your son. Too bad he is in his fantasy world.
My mom has asked me several times that if he begged me would I go back. I told her no chance after all that he has said and done to me. I know he will never change because he never takes accountability for his actions.
I have finally opened my eyes and realized how over the years he has conditioned me and tried to form me into someone he wanted. But yet he was still not satisfied.
I have always been a very independent person, but yet love will make you do stupid things. He no longer has that control over me and for the first time in a long time I feel FREE.
Coward.
I hope he lives a miserable life by himself and never subjects anyone else to what he has me. He is not deserving of anyone.