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Manipulation and Emotional Abuse

Lily61
Lily61
Do you think someone who is manipulative and emotionally abusive can be helped with counseling? Or does the counseling just teach them the right words to use to better cover up their problems?
Lily61
Lily61
Some counselors do more damage than good.

In situations where a spouse is manipulative or abusive, I think it is better to go to a counselor alone. When people have been manipulated, controlled, abused, etc., they are already emotionally beaten down. It is often too easy for the manipulator to set up the counselor like an ally in their attempt to control.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You just got yo go for yourself. My stbx is a sociopath and they are very clever at their manipulation. They can say all the right things to get you where they want you. I had to have no contact and work on me until I was able to put some reality into it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Not only alone but better male therapist because they understand male behavior better.
Lily61
Lily61
We went to a male counselor and he was not good at all. Even my husband didn't like him.

I see a female counselor by myself now, and she is great. And I don't have to listen to my husband lying his pants off so he makes a good impression on the counselor.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thats good. I am glad you found one you like male or female doesn't matter really if you find them helpful)))). No point to go together if he is going to tell lies, lost money. What the whole point of going to get help if you going to make impression. Make impression infront of the mirror)))).