http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3px0m1Y9Tuc&feature=related

1 : to become different (her mood changes every hour)
2 of the moon : to pass from one phase to another
3 : to shift one's means of conveyance : transfer
4 of the voice : to shift to lower register : break
5 : to undergo transformation, transition, or substitution (winter changed to spring)
6 : to put on different clothes

Change...is usually not something welcomed by people naturally. It's why when you ask someone how's it going and they respond same ol same ol typically the response is that's good.

If you're looking for change...idk...I found a website that might help. first30days.com

It talks about change and how usually successful people in life can adapt to change and almost welcome it. I started doing some reading on the site and found it to be relatively value add.

For me it depends on if I know where I want to be in the end.

You became the person you are over time. So change is going to take just that...time. Sometimes it means taking a step in a different direction even if you are unsure of where your foot will land.

What if the change is good for you, but not so good for someone else?


How much responsibility do you have for that?

True, but can one control the change they may face?

-therapy
-support group (not this one, a face-to-face kind where they hold you accountable)
-12 step-programme
-somehow flipping that mental switch that what you want to change can, must be and will be the most important thing to you for 90 days, everything else comes after

LOL...Being held accountable!

Pot
Kettle
Black.

If you are me, you lose everything you hold dear, rebuild your life from scratch, only to turn around & re-sabotage your success

Sound familiar?

I dunno, I really didn't MAKE any of the Changes, all the big ones were foisted upon me. I just made the best of the seeming disasters.

The only real change I Made was moving down to Florida, but that was mostly out of my hands too, I Just provided the Wallet.

If my actions have kept me from getting involved with others, given the last week's events, I think I'm Wanting it this way and prefer it this way.

I don't think I Really want it any different than it is. I got used to and started to enjoy being All Alone most of the time. I got so much to do and so much entertainment, I don't care about what's seemingly missing.

I know what i want to change, but draw blanks when it comes to the "how to" part.

I've always kinda been the "just do it" type. I'll research stuff but sometimes that can hinder you from doing what you need to do. Some of the best things in my life have come from just jumping in.

This is true bell, a person can read all they want, but if they never do... they will remain stagnant.

you know your actions are self destructive, yet you are unable to do anything about it?

hmmm when you get the answer let me know.