Let yourself grieve, breakups are hard
Many people go to a therapist to help
During this time. Depression is part of
The package of grief. Divorce care.org
Is a great program too.

Keep reaching out to loving caring
healthy people for support. This is
A long hard journey. I cried for four
months after my ex left. HUGS

First thing, don't say you have nothing to live for. You have YOU to live for. You shouldn't give someone else so much control and power over you. Healthy relationships are when two people have their own lives and come together in the middle to share themselves. Don't collapse yourself into someone else. When you lose sight of yourself, the person you're with will also lose sight of you.

You're hurting right now but it does get better. A little each day. One baby step at a time. I know this because sadly I've had more than my fair share of heart break. (Turns out, I'm pretty lousy at picking men to fall in love with!) If you really feel like you can't go on, seek professional help.

Hearing that time heals all wounds is the last thing I want to hear while going through moments like this. In fact, when people say to me I imagine punching them in the belly. My belly is a mess, maybe theirs should be too. But, it's true. Time will pass and you'll find yourself waking up one day ready to embrace whatever chapter is next for you.

I'm right here with you feeling like I've lost the man I should have grown old with. I believed in him perhaps more than he believed in himself. My story is long and irrelevant, but I want you to know you're not alone. I've found a lot of support already on here and I'm new myself! Keep talking to us. There are some great people part of this group.

Be patient with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Allow yourself to ride this crappy emotional roller coaster because once the ride is over you'll be stronger and more confident than ever. I'm starting to create a list of "healthy boundaries". Since no relationship is perfect, I need to have clear picture of what I'm willing accept and what are deal breakers. I'm not sure I've ever been considerate of my own needs … and it's about time I start! Perhaps this is something you can work on too as you slowly gain clarity on what sort of connections make you happy.

Hang in there. Hugs.

I definitely know the feeling. I try to set goals, and it's saved me before, but sometimes I've had to go on antidepressants. Right now I'm thinking of doing a cross country move to be closer to my family and have a fresh start. At some point, it gets better. I came to this site 6 years ago because of an ex, and he is now engaged (married?) to the girl he cut me off for. And while I still lose my breath thinking about it, I'm pretty much fine. Time is what heals all. Unfortunately, it's total hell until then. Usually takes me TWO YEARS to get past the crying phase over someone.

I heard writing a list about all the wonderful things you want in your perfect man helps, stick to it when you heal enough to start dating again.

Write down all your feelings in a journal. Swear if u need to. Know one has to read it but u. The feelings of pain sometimes stay on the paper when u write it for some reason. Im still healing. I cant wait until i feel completely safe again with a man who truly loves me 4 who i am. Because as weird as my laugh is, and as bad as my baby belly is, someone will love it, because im a loving and caring person. And they will see me and love me. He's out there, trust me.

I was feeling like that a month ago. My boyfriend of seven years broke up with me. My world shattered and I thought I was going to die. But I did not. I turned to God and cried out to Him because I know He is the only one who can handle my pain. Allow yourself to grieve. It is the only healthy way to get through what we are getting through now. You dont get over a breakup, you get through it. You might want to check this link. This video help me alot with my pain. https://youtu.be/gaQ_oTp7tKY

I can't stop texting. Sometimes begging to get back together and other times lashing out saying how much of a fucked up person they are for making me feel this way. I'm being that typical crazy ex girlfriend and I can't stop myself.

Put that phone away, call a friend, stop the
Texting. Get yourself into therapy and go to a
Support group, Anything but texting him.

Journal out your pain and hurt, pray, listen
To meditation music on you tube to calm
Yourself down. HUGS