Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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empty 09/30/2016

I was with my girlfriend for nearly 3 years, I broke up with her because I was scared of commitment and because I didn't have enough faith in myself.

I saught help from a councillor (still am) to overcome these problems so that I could be the man she saw me for. I told her this.

3 months down the line all she says is 'I think we both need time to heal and work on ourselves'.

But social media makes me think she has started seeing someone which is completely out of the blue and goes against everything I know about her.

I am so lost and confused, I made a huge mistake and am doing everything I can to show her I love her and she is my other half.

I am a mess without her I don't know what to do or where to turn all I do is overthink and cry.

I've even handed my notice in at work because my job made our relationship so much more areas full (RAF by the way)

Minidogs2 09/30/2016

Sorry for the rough time you're going through. As a man, I think the best thing you could do is to keep your job and stay busy working full time which will help me feel better about yourself. Continue to see the counselor which will help you feel better about yourself also and think more clearly. If she really loves you, she should be willing to be supportive and appreciate that you are doing something to help yourself and your relationship with her. If she is already seeing somebody else, there is nothing you can do about that. Focus on taking care of yourself. It's hard right now but you can do it and go forward regardless of what she does.

empty 09/30/2016

Thankyou minidogs2.

My job unfortunately has so much down time I spend all day thinking about her and this situation. The issue we had with my job was the distance and when I go away for a length of time or last minute weekend work.
I am trying to focus on myself but I don't know how it's alien to me, I've always focused my energy in to helping others especially my ex. She has anxiety, depression and recently diagnosed bipolar. :(

mirandac 09/30/2016

I would just focus on yourself and your healing,
Leave her to her stuff. I tried to fix my ex and my
Marriage, it does not work. I can only fix myself
And my issues not his. HUGS

empty 10/01/2016

How does one focus on their self? She told me to do that but I don't know what it means.

mirandac 10/01/2016

Work With your therapist to try to keep fixing yourself.

Your therapist must tell you areas you need help improving
In, we all have them. I go to alanon and there is CODA they
Help you fix yourself from the inside out. Stop putting others
First, you matter and come before anyone else. HUGS

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