Take inventory of these friends. I didn't lose anyone that positively enhanced my life or offered anything beyond someone to "hang" with when we got our kids together. The friends I have and kept are people I met on my own, who greatly impact my life in many, many positive ways. I don't miss the "friends" I thought I had.
Included in that, are members of my EX's family. I have to deal with the ex MIL cause I have a kid, but I am sooooo happy not to talk to, look at, or do anything with his sister. She is incredibly negative and enjoys instigating drama.
So, really think about who these people are. It's tough YOUR divorce devastated them, but true friends are there to help you when you fall; not just to be there when things are rosy and pretty.

For me, it has not been so much that I have lost friends, as it is that I have lost that commonality that we had before the divorce. All my friends (and family) are married with kids, no one I can think of off the top of my head is divorced. Now that I am divorced, it's not that my friends haven't tried to be supportive, it's just that they have no idea what hell I have been through and back during the divorce process. And during their free time, they want to spend it with their family, not me. As it should be, spending time with the ones you love most. Me, I want that too, but it does not happen as much as I like. Because now the kids are split between two households. Anyway, no I don't think I've lost my friends as much as I've lost that commonality, which results in spending less time with them. But I have also made new friends, divorced friends, which has been kind of fun. I have been meeting people through meetup.com (recommended by someone on this forum, can't remember who, but thank you!!!). A wonderful resource for meeting new people. I love to go on hikes, and belong to several outdoorsy meetup groups. Lots and lots of fun!!!

Not whiney. Not over sinsitive. But.....as I had to accept my Siblings! not contacting me after they got the initial dirt. . so you have to accept....they just weren't your true friends anyway.
I have 13 siblings, 12 living. And the siblings, like people I 'thought' were friends. After the initial talk. They just didn't call, if I did I would leave a msg and not get a call back. I have 3 siblings that contact me and 4 friends. That's it.
But you are strong and can do without them. I read your posts and you are strong and helpful.
I wouldn't give them the time of day. Don't waste your energy on them. If they couldn't hang during the bad, then you don't need them for the good.
Just my opinion.

Just into a initially unwanted out of the blue D process.
My STBXW and I had 64 mutual Facebook friends - I dropped a few of "her" family and she dropped a few of "my" family - this took us down to 52.

The remaining 52 mutual friends were truly that real life mutual friends.
Were now down to 18 FB "mutual friends" - it appears whenever someone disagrees or questions her (to include some of her own family) she unfriends them, drops them from her life and they never hear from her again. If someone were to defend me then she does the same but then publicly insults, and defames them on FB.

I have informed all remaining "mutual friends" to please let it go, more on and provide only support because I know she is hurting - just not sure how.

Some of "her" friends are still mine on FB but they wont talk to me because she painted a horrific picture of me or they don't want to get in the middle.

understandable, I will remember that, respect that and confront it when I'm in a better place.

Note: MY STBXW no longer talks to her parents because they questioned why, but they have "adopted" me.

Yeah, I think it's uncomfortable for most people! Some don't wanna take sides. Some don't wanna, but do! Some might fear it's contagious, that if they participate, it will jinx their marriage.

I've actually heard that, from one gal, as an excuse! Can you believe it? But for the most part: it just tells me that they didn't consider me valuable to keep in touch, and if that's the case, ya just got to accept it.

People are funny, and are creatures of habits. If ya guys hung around as couples, their mind is a bit too structured to stray beyond the envelope and see ya as a single. Sad, but true!

I know where you are coming from, my divorce "anniversary" is just three weeks away, I never heard from my married friends again, not even the women. When I call them they sound so uncomfortable that I quit calling them. I was really devastated when his family dropped me also, we have a son and they don't call him either, very sad.

Well, my son only has one family, but I can make new friends. I have spent the past year working on myself so that I can be open to making new friends. It has been kindof nice to not have to concentrate on anyone but healing my son and me.

Yep, I lost all my friends I had with my ex. I thought I was good friends with his buddies wives but I guess I was wrong. It hurt at first but oh well, no biggie now. I discovered who my real friends are. I'm sure having a single woman in the mix is probably not a good thing for the married women crowd -- not that I would ever flirt or come on to anyone's husband. I've never done it and I'm certainly not going to start now.

Hugs ((((cwalla)))).i not only lost so called acquaintances,including people at church.he cheated on me.it was my church.he went to his mother church on c &e.married couples treated u like had horn coming out ur forehead.even my best girlfriend went thru same thing.we went our separate ways.after twenty years.u definitely find who really cares bout you.

I completely understand...I also lost his family. But my family still invites him to EVERYTHING. It sucks!!