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Losing everything without telling my kids

Onmyway
Onmyway

I have to sell all my belongings to have enough money to move, if the court let's me move with my family. A snafu with my court filing has just made my life so difficult. I thought we filed for absolute divorce, we filed for limited divorce. Limited only deals with custody. Absolute deals with custody and property, cut all ties if I get full and physical custody. I have wait until July 7 or 14, to go to trial. So now I need rent money for another two months and I might not have a car.


STBX still owes 15K, no consequences. Child support enforcement has stated that they are going to suspend his license at the end of June. If he loses his license then I might lose the use of my car. I can't insure the car since I'm not on the registration. The shit just doesn't end. His inaction continues to hinder our future. 


I'm trying to have my kids go with my family so that I can get rid of everything while their gone. They won't understand when everything starts to disappear. I can stay here with an air mattress and a tv. I don't need much. 


My mind is racing, every time I think this is almost over another issue pops up. 


Waiting to cry, I need the release. Going to put the monkeys to sleep. 

NiaLove
NiaLove
I will be praying for you, Im sorry to hear about your awful situation. I pray that your life has a positive outcome <3
Tranquility
Tranquility
My prayers are with you dear. Your situation is definitely frustrating to say the least. Have you checked with some of your local organizations to see if they can help you with rent or anything else. I am not sure what state you reside in, but some states will help pay for a person to get an older vehicle if they need one (since it is in your ex's name you may be eligible for some help). I know a lot of people hate to ask for any help but reach out to these local organizations to see what they can do for you. Also churches are a good resource sometimes. My heart aches for your children to have to go through such a thing because of a deadbeat parent like your ex who doesn't want to provide for his own children. Again my thoughts and prayers are with you and the children. Things will get better in the long run, hang in there. You can do it.
sjs777
sjs777
stay positive
serenityspeaks
serenityspeaks
Sending thought and prayers what a hard road. I started all over it's been a long process. So I hope all goes well.
Anonymous112211
Anonymous112211
You are in a tough situation. First, sending you a hug. Second, will pray for you. Third, you have made it this far, you only have a little more to go. Stay positive, you can do it.
tolonely
tolonely
I feel so bad for you sending prayers and hugs how old are your kids my heart really goes out to you
Onmyway
Onmyway
Thank you everyone. My kids are 6 and 9. My kids school has been helpful, they understand the children are having a hard time and my 6 y/o DD is acting out.

I have been working with an organization this passed year, they have help with may things, but I have exuasted all my allotted resources.

To save money I'm going to send my kids to my sister and just work for another 6 weeks. I'm going to lose my food stamps anyway. I've been working special events, crossing guard, any extra income they lower your food stamps. They took away $130 so far.

I'm just going take care of what can and leave the rest to God. Tranquility, thanks for the info regarding the car. I will look into that program.
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