I'm right there with you. It's incredibly hard. Sounds like you are doing your best to fill up your time. Never forget that there will be another person out there for you. This is only temporary. Keep working on yourself so you can be a great partner for the next person!

i will continue to do so just trying to take it a day at a time

I understand I also have a hard time not calling and texting mine. It's very hard I barely sleep eat and I try to watch TV and Google stupid stuff like why did my husband fall out of love and can I save my marriage. It's so hard I have thought about ending it, everyone says u won't be single forever, u did nothing wrong but it's so lonely....

We're here for you, JDP. Perhaps a bit shy on the romance, but we care.

The nights are the worst for me. I too watch tv shows to take my mind off the silence and loneliness. My situation wasn't one I want to go back to in the least, and as lonely as I get I'm not sure I will ever want to risk that again, but oh the nights are long. Sometimes I sit outside with a notebook and try to write, a diary. Sometimes that helps a little.

Sleep time is always the hardest, sometimes I wish I had a big teddy bear to snuggle with.

thank you and i thought about writing poetry again but my feelings come out and i dont want to relive themand i relate everyone saying youre young you will find someone and i know i will well part of me does other parts i wonder what actually makes a woman stay. like i cant wrap my head around it

I just told my Mom today that the nights are the hardest. I hate coming home to an empty house. No one to ask me how my day was or cook dinner with (usually he had dinner waiting for me). I miss having someone to laugh together at when something silly comes on TV. Just reaching out and touching someone. Right before bed is extremely lonely too. It's so gut wrenching and sad. I under estimated how difficult this would be.

But while we feel alone we clearly aren't. Look at all of us feeling the exact same way. Wish we all could chat at night when we're feeling that way.

Hang in there! Know there's a girl out there feeling the same way you do, crying into her pillow st night. We'll get through this, we just need to keep doing what we're doing.

-TM

its just rough i find myself wondering where is this girl wheres the one who wants all that i can offer and will accept me and my kids

Try to keep an awareness that if you are looking for the next girl without getting yourself to a place where your source of peace, strength and happiness is within yourself, the next relationship could be a repeat. I'm sure its preaching to the choir, if I am out of line, I apologize.

My girlfriend broke up with me about a month ago, and it has been jarring. We were college sweethearts and it would have been 5 years in October. She told me she wasn't happy with who she was and felt like she wasn't present in the relationship anymore. She is in another state and not contacting her has been rough. My last contact with her was the 25th. It went really well and she answered a lot of questions I had and she finally was honest about everything that she had lied about for so long. We still want to be friends because we don't hate each other and we are too close of friends to just fade out of each others lives.