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fifercats
fifercats
fifercats
fifercats
oops I hit send too quickly
My husband left on Feb 19th. I think he had been planning on leaving for a while. He will not contact me and he has my dead fathers car that is senimental to me. We had a lot of problems but I really thought we could get through them. I had a breakdown and I think that was his final straw. We have been together for 3 and half years but married since June 6th 2006.
We worked together and he recently lost his job. I believe he is seeing and staying with another female employee.
I want my car back but I still want him back. I know I shouldnt care about how he feels but I still love him deeply.
My position at work is higher than hers and I dont want anything coming down from my job either.
Any advice would be appreciated. I feel like Im out of my mind.
Jo60
Jo60
Try and get your car back and wait and see what happens with your marriage. You guys have not been married long. I know it is hard for you as I have been there and done that. It is really a learning experience.
deleted_user
deleted_user
fifercats I think the reason you aren't getting any response on this thread is because people do not feel like they got enough info to advise you. I wanted to help but didn't post because I didn't feel like I could make a good response without knowing more detail. I have a bad cold & probably won't be on a couple of days & I hope you are making friends here and getting some help.
deleted_user
deleted_user
All I can say is that I wanted my ex back too. Then when the pain was not so bad I started to realize that he actually did me a favor. This website helped me come out of major depression. Get your car back first of all. Only you know what you can and can't put up with. Are the problems you had worth fixing? If he is with someone else, can you ever forgive him? Is this honestly the man that you want to spend the rest of your life with? I had to ask myself these questions and at first I wanted him back more than anything. But as time we by I realized that I deserved much better. Now that I have moved on he wants to come back and I won't let him. I am not sure if any of this helps but only you know what you can put up with. Kim
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