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brief run down of my situation wife cheated all in 2012 i found out at thanksgiving she moved out, we are still seperated but getting ready to divorce we have shared custody of a 13 year old special needs child who has asbergers and possibly bipolar, and a 10 year old. both girls
my STBX works midnights, so the arrangement is kids are with me 5 nights a week she gets them her nights off and after school, until i come home. there is no child support or anything, when they are with me i pay when she is with them she pays.
my living arrangement, the house we lived in together i live in with the kids, the title to the house is in both our names but the mortgage is in her name and i am paying it. so basically i am paying all the bills we payed together on 2 incomes on one.
so my life is a stressful mess dealing with all the above, theres more but no sense in dragging this out.
as to the point of my topic, and i dont know if i should post this here or infidelity.. i will probably post in both,
i am doing everythign for kids first they are having a hard enough time coping with the situation as is, but does anyone find that their spouse who has left becomes a totally different person, where they dont worry about anything but themselves anymore and could care less how actions affect anyone including their kids,
yesterday was first day of school for my youngest and well we went in the same car to the school, i had to go to the office of the school we never got letter about bussing. anyhow i told her to meet me at the door by the office since she was going to the car and i was going to other side of building, i talked to the principal for several minutes and then into the office when i came outshe wasnt there. seh was still in the car other side of the buidling talking to her boyfriend,. not that this was a big deal to walk but it was pouring down rain so when i get to the car, and see her on the phone she says aww did poor baby get wet, i told her to F off and walked home, meanwhile the only reason i was in the office is so She knew when to pick her up at the bus. sorry so long just needed to vent
my STBX works midnights, so the arrangement is kids are with me 5 nights a week she gets them her nights off and after school, until i come home. there is no child support or anything, when they are with me i pay when she is with them she pays.
my living arrangement, the house we lived in together i live in with the kids, the title to the house is in both our names but the mortgage is in her name and i am paying it. so basically i am paying all the bills we payed together on 2 incomes on one.
so my life is a stressful mess dealing with all the above, theres more but no sense in dragging this out.
as to the point of my topic, and i dont know if i should post this here or infidelity.. i will probably post in both,
i am doing everythign for kids first they are having a hard enough time coping with the situation as is, but does anyone find that their spouse who has left becomes a totally different person, where they dont worry about anything but themselves anymore and could care less how actions affect anyone including their kids,
yesterday was first day of school for my youngest and well we went in the same car to the school, i had to go to the office of the school we never got letter about bussing. anyhow i told her to meet me at the door by the office since she was going to the car and i was going to other side of building, i talked to the principal for several minutes and then into the office when i came outshe wasnt there. seh was still in the car other side of the buidling talking to her boyfriend,. not that this was a big deal to walk but it was pouring down rain so when i get to the car, and see her on the phone she says aww did poor baby get wet, i told her to F off and walked home, meanwhile the only reason i was in the office is so She knew when to pick her up at the bus. sorry so long just needed to vent
Don't be surprised if she does little things like that just to piss you off. My STBX makes comments all the time to try and get me to "bite". Usually stuff about her new boyfriend being a better man and taking care of her needs in ways I couldn't. Don't take the bait. She's just getting ammunition from it. She could be trying to make you appear to be temperamental on court.