Wow. Did he give any reason for leaving - did he leave you because you are pregnant? If so, he's a total ASS. You say he's started university late and you have financially supported him - is he a moocher? I'm going to guess yes, and if that's the case, he probably wasn't in the relationship the same way you were. Sounds like he's a user, and with you being pregnant, that'd cramp his college boy lifestyle.

Try not to forget the one beautiful thing - that you will have a child someday soon. Knowing you have to care for another life can be that incentive that you need to continue, despite the pain you're experiencing. Take things one day at a time, don't apologize for your emotions or depression, but try to do positive things for your body and your baby. Perhaps networking with other soon to be moms would be a good opportunity to find other future single moms, who can relate to what you're experiencing.

His reason was he never wanted children. His father abandoned him, so he never wanted to be a dad because of this. He claims he loves me, and really wanted to grow old with me, despite never wanting to marry or have a family. I'm confused, and he i starting to say things that don't make much sense to me. I remember a year or so ago he tried to pressure me into a open relationship, and now that he has made it clear that he is going to see other people, he says I'm weird views on sex because that shouldn't upset me.

I am very sorry to hear about the dilemma you are in. First of all, let me say that if he tried to pressue you in to an open relationship a year ago, should have been a red flag. Secondly, if he never wanted to marry you, why did you feel obligated to stay with him? Most women want a family, a husband and all the other things that life has to offer. Sounds to me that you will be much better off without him and your life will be much happier. Evidently, he has been seeing this other women on the side so, he is a cheater as well. I am here if you need a friend.

I don't know why I stayed. I was stupid...

If you can get into therapy for yourself
And join support groups. Keep reaching
From loving supportive caring people.

Now should be a happy and proud time
of your life. I dont know how much the
baby absorbs while inside. There are
Womens aid or shelter support that has
Referrals and information available.

I am sorry for your hurt and pain. HUGS

"I don't know why I stayed. I was stupid..."

I think most of us have felt the very same thing. Sometimes those red flags can smack us in the face and we still ignore them. Hopefully, at least we learn to see them and be smarter in the future.

I am sorry you are going through this. A few things 1) youre not stupid...like jojored said we have all been there and we all love the person and hope for a better tomorrow. 2) this guy sounds like a complete and total ass. I know you are hurting right now and the situation is overwhelming but Im thinking that he would have run once the baby showed up anyway. He sounds selfish and ridiculous and he may have done you a favour bailing on you now. I know it doesnt feel like this now but you will get through this and Im thinking you with be okay. 3) Concentrate on that baby that is coming. It will give you a good distraction from the emotional upheaval you feel now. Concentrate on getting ready and making sure you are healthy for your child. The baby will be here before you know it and 4) Take this ass to court and get child support. He certainly didnt mind having his fun and now he wants to shuck his responsibility. Do not let him do this. He is the father of this child and therefore his responsibility no matter what he says or does. You dont get to walk away from it and neither does he. and 5) (and the most important) Do not let others dictate to you your importance. You have nothing to be ashamed of. You need to ignore others judgement and live for you and that baby. I know its hard right now but you dont sound stupid or horrible or anything you sound like someone who put their trust and love into someone who did not deserve it. So hold your head high and remember that you are going to get thru this and it will be okay.