You are brave enough to stand up and fight for yourself. My sister faced a bad divorce recently and was heartbroken as his husband cheated on her. Her lawyer http://www.pagesjaunes.fr/pros/05241146 help her to deal with the situation and and motivated her that she can be happy again. Family also becomes a strength at this point of situation.

Although it's a tough call to make, it really is for the best. My EX got angry when he wasn't getting his way even though I had the law backing what I asked for. He thought he could continue to manipulate me like he had the entire relationship. I tell ya, 30 years of letting him get his way was hard to turn around. I would just announce I was hanging up the phone and then did it. He learned he couldn't do that anymore if he wanted me to listen. After that I never said yes or no to anything he proposed because when I chose something different that what he wanted, he always claimed I "flip flopped" on him. I just told the lawyer what I wanted and she dealt with him. So much nicer. He stopped talking to me altogether. It's been great!

I had my own lawyer and let her deal with his
Lawyer. My lawyer wanted us to be able to work
On the financials together i never gave her any
Hope of that ever happening. I still tried to be civil
And mature with him it was just on the surface.

We tried a financial mediator We lasted 5 minutes
in the same room. The mediator Went back and forth
And It went nowhere. He wanted it but was not open
To any new ideas. He did come see me a few days later,
He refused to sit down or talk personal. That went well
As you can imagine. He wanted to only talk financials.

Finally two weeks before trial Date he settled, otherwise
the courts would decide and it Cost more to have a trial.
We had 50-50 split and some alimony. It was the splitting
without selling and how to go about that was the hard part.

Glad you are standing up for yourself, my ex wanted to do
It ourselves and save money and he would be fair. He had
A GF and i did not trust him nor had i for a long time. My Ex
and his inner family basically outted me, thats fine i still leave
that part alone. No good reason to be friendly with him or some
Of them since we had no children, they are in the past. HUGS

I did deleted my FB and still in contact with his parents. I hold no ill feelings towards them. This is my exs doing. I certainly accept responsibility for my actions but his temper tantrums made it impossible to talk to him.