Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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adriennem 05/13/2008

I kicked out my husband yesterday because he prefers porn over me. He prefers porn to spending time with me or the family. We have great chemistry between us but I guess that was not enough for him. I got tired of going to bed at night with my cat and cuddling up to him while my husband was downstairs looking at porn. Even after we watched movies on Friday nights and cuddled on the couch etc, he would stay downstairs while I went upstairs alone.

I AM SO SAD I can hardly breath-HELP!

adriennem 05/23/2008

Yes he ran up a credit card bill too-what should women do in this curcumstance? He put up a great front that all was OK. His face told me a different story.

deleted_user 05/23/2008

My ex was addicted also. It is a sickness that can erode away at the relationship and create new problems. I am so sorry for your pain and pray that peace will find you. Hugs. Kimmee

deleted_user 05/23/2008

Maybe he didn't like sharing a bed with a cat.

deleted_user 05/23/2008

I know just how u feel! My stbx husband now, watched porn instead of trying to be with me many times. He said that it was easier!! Easier then what, being respectful to me that's what. We would still be together 2x a week but that was not good enough for him. The other 5 days he thought he could treat me like shit and I should still be there for him. It really ruined my self esteem and made me feel used. Like how can I feel like my own husband is using me.
We have been seperated for 8 months now, things have gotten way better for me. But just when I think I'm good a topic like this comes up and I relize thers more things I need to work on before I'm healed. Thank God for DS.
I hope you start to feel better soon.

deleted_user 05/24/2008

It's funny. I use to watch porn on the computer, not all the time, because my X did not do anything for me. I'm not kinky, but because she was a prude. After divorce I met a wonderful woman who , together, we enjoy sex as it should be. I have no desire to watch porn when the real thing is laying next to me in bed. If your husband would rather watch porn than be with a vivacious woman then he should get his head out of his ass. Ther is nothing better than two people making love rather than watching it.

deleted_user 05/24/2008

Amen to that last post.. Thank you.. Kimmee

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