"When you focus on the positive, it is easier to move on because you feel empowered and not victimized (by your ex, time and yourself)"

I read this and it was the eye opener I needed today. It is so easy to focus on everything that has gone wrong and blame ourselves or blame others. It is easy to play the victim and we do it all the time.

Let's be honest. During our time worrying, hurting, crying, hating, etc... we also grow, find ourselves, get stronger, become wiser. Most of us can read someone's post and give advice because we have been in their shoes. We have gained experience. And if we stop beating ourselves up for the past and see all these positive things that came from a bad situation or a moment of hurt then we should feel empowered. NO ONE will ever be allowed to hurt us that way again because we are wiser and more experienced.

We are all growing and getting better. What needs to change is our view point. Let's view our experiences as a good learning experience. Let's evolve and grow stronger. Let's smile at life because we know and can yell out "I took your best shot and I am still standing fuckers. Want to try again? I'll stand up stronger than before."

Like Rocky said: "Nobody will hit you harder than life." Well here I am still standing and doing better than ever. A lot stronger and a lot wiser.

Have a great day everyone.