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Just pissed off

gottabreath
gottabreath
I am so pissed off I can't stand it...he acts like he can call me names treat me like total shit and then expect me to act like everything is ok....it makes me so mad because he will give me this quirky smile and that is his way of saying ok lets just let it go and move on.....I don't want to I want to stay mad...I want to be angry..

We were suppose to go out tonight....we never go out and he says no he doesn't feel like it...of course after I already have gotten ready and excited about it... so this girl will be going by herself...

I should just be home packing my stuff and moving the hell out...

he is comepletely detached from reality no feelings whatsoever...he hasn't touched me in months....I can't remember the last time I was even kissed....why am I still here!!!!!!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Answer the question. Why ARE you still there?
deleted_user
deleted_user
sounds familiar... you go out and have fun, when you have had enough.. you'll leave
gottabreath
gottabreath
AMEN to that!!!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I stayed with someone I was not "in love" with for 20 years. That was 10 ( count 'em) TEN YEARS too long. I wanted my house and my comfortable life, but I didn't even LIKE him after awhile. I spent 10 years telling him I had a headace to stay "safe" and put off the inevitabale. He was jealous, controlling and abusive, but at least when he went to work I could pretend he didn't exist. .DUMB DUMB DUMB Don't be miserable. Life's too short, and if it's going to end, at least do it YOUR way, before he does it his and leaves you screwed.
gottabreath
gottabreath
You are so right....it is so complicated but then I say to myself...ok what would you do if he did just disappear you would have to....pretend like he isn't around...do what you would have to do like it were a death...mourn the loss pick yourself up and pick up the pieces.

His brother needs some help on his farm...I am going to get him a plane ticket and send him on his way....it is the inevitable...I love his family dearly but I won't do this to myself anymore.. I stayed in my first marriage for 18 years because of the kids and I tell you what it did worse damage to them if I had left when they were younger...

Thanks for the support
deleted_user
deleted_user
Wow....sounds familiar! Why are you still there? He doesn't care, so why should you? I wasn't touched by my ex for over a year. Ya, that was awesome. And, that was the least of the horrible things he did.

He thought I should be thankful that he kissed me on the cheek every morning before he went off to work or to bang his little ho! My advice -- get out before he has the chance to destroy you completely.