Can you get therapy?

I see the train wreck about to be put in motion here after I saw you joined children of divorced parents.

You're having abandonment issues and the WORST absolute WORST thing you could do is attach yourself to some guy and convince yourself you found the answer.

Deal with these feelings now with a counselor and get help. Tell your mom or an aunt how you're feeling and get some help.

I can get therapy I actually thought I didn't need it for a while I thought I could do it in my own I feel it's my fault I gat to attached in that I'm sensitive

Be brave it's the right place for u to express your feeling don't wry

Thank you

That's great kaykay. Please do that asap and explain what you said here or show her this post.

You won't regret it.

Abandonment is very painful. It doesn't get better with external things.

I feel your pain as I get attached easily myself. I didn't start dating until I was 18 and dated 5 guys by the time I was 20. That's when I met my longest relationship of 7 years with my now ex-fiance. He wasn't good to me, yet I stayed with him because I grew attached to him very quickly. I think part of it also is lack of self worth and confidence. Since we broke up a month ago today, I have felt the urge to find someone new in hopes it would help. I talked to a few guys and it became overwhelming and I decided it wasn't what I needed right now.

At some point you just have to work on yourself and try to find your own happiness without the aid of someone else. It's so hard, I know this first hand. But if you don't, you just tend to end up with the same type of people that don't appreciate you. Good luck! And remember...you are still young (19 according to your profile?) I get told by people all the time that I won't be alone forever and that I'm still young and I just turned 27 haha. You got this girl! You just need to try and focus on yourself right now...even if that means therapy.

I'm here for you

First time i went to therapy i was 24 and i went For
little while long enough to detach from my unhealthy
Mother and i moved to reinvent myself. I still Needed
more therapy and i should have been in Alanon All
those years too. HUGS

But the thing is....is that it's hard I was attached to someone for Four year from jr high to my junior year in high school ima senior now thank the lord but this happened all during my junior year he betrayed me lied to me made me feel like I was nothing like I had to change myself for him to appreciate me I was so use to having someone that I didn't wanna be alone I know I'm just a kid in still learning to adjust to everything but it's hard in the guy that I speak to now he's gone we don't speak or hang out like we use to at all I guess that's because he just graduated from the school I'm in and he has better plans then I found out he was texting someone else then he said don't worrying but the thing is we aren't together but we're just friends but I feel more that I got attached to him in now I can't stop thinking about him I'm mad and upset with if he didn't want me or wants me I rather him just say it then leave me like this when I was already healing from attempting suicide I was better off alone but it's my fault I got attached

I do hope for your sake you do get into See
a trained therapist. This stuff is serious And
has a life all of its own. HUGS

Thank you and yes I know this isn't easy i live it everyday but I pray I'll make it threw it I'm not okae or fine I'm just taking it day by day step by step but my main focus is worrying about me I'm not worrying about a guy who probably doesn't care as much as I did but it's cool I'm putting my first