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Just like that..

Nepenthe
Nepenthe

We were friends since college.. He had a girlfriend.. i had a boy friend.. we were friends... I broke up with my boyfriend.. and he had another girlfriend. 



In medschool.. i was single.. he broke up with her girlfriend.. since i knew how it felt and he's my friend.. i was there to comfort him.. we studied together.. go to church together.. as friends.. then things developed to something.. he was my bestfriend... We graduated medschool.. went to residency in different hospitals.. weve been in a relationship for almost 8 years.. i was taking care of him.. making sure hes ok.. not lonely and sad.. despite my own personal problems at the hospital and and at home.. he was my priority.. 



A few months ago.. he was silent.. i asked him why.  Then he answered he was not happy anymore... Just like that...



Since then.. 2 months to be specific.. he never asked about me.. or how i was doing.. my bestfriend never asked about me.. :(

ddjones27
ddjones27
Wow, I'm so sorry to hear that. It is a very sad statement but it is true, most all of us have lost our best friend here. You Are by no means alone. I know that that doesn't help a whole lot, but there is a lot of wisdom here. From my personal experience, keep pursuing. If he is worth it, it'll be worth it.

Btw, how are you doing?
Nepenthe
Nepenthe
He said he was not happy anymore.. that doesnt give much of a hope. I think he found happiness somewhere else.. the way he found "me" years ago...

Now, i trying really hard.. atleast im not crying that much.. i try to go to the beach every free weekend i have.. i work out when i wake up at 2 am... To distract myself.. i listen to spotify.. my "moving on" playlist.. and i bury my self with work.. :)
mlr0853
mlr0853
So very hard....I'm sorry you are going through all of the heart pain...I can remember a similar situation and felt like I lost a part of my soul....I do hope with each day you feel better. As a caretaker, your roll is hard to give to yourself... please, next time try to fulfill your needs first, and then when your cup is full spread your care and love.
Nepenthe
Nepenthe
@mlro853 thank you. Yep.. i pray to God that someday i can see the reasons behind this.. its just really hard coz for me, he was really the one.. hai.. now.. i know he's happy.. just like that...
mlr0853
mlr0853
Nep, life lessons are sometimes very hard to understand...silver lining in a cloud...I've found my own problems of the heart to ease when I don't ask 'why'...as a physician, you too need to detach from patients emotionally, yet do your job with compassion...can you try to do this with yourself? Fact based, smack in your face reality will help I've found to reduce the emotional rollercoaster, and the hamster wheel of questions...what was 'it' and the 'why' chatter...I hope you will enjoy this woman as much as I do...she is a mystic/healer and amazing teacher....https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-KysuBl2m_w
Cora_Belle
Cora_Belle
This sounds very codependent; you might want to look into that...
Spr167
Spr167
If he can up and bounce like this, is it even worth it? You need to keep doing what your doing. I'm sorry it took 8 years, I had a friend play these types of games with me off and on for five years enough is enough and it's time for you to let go. Open up your eyes and look around you there may be someone else who's interested in you but you can't see it because you're so focused on this guy. I'm not saying go out there and do anything stupid but the fast way to get over one man is to get on with another! God Bless
Nepenthe
Nepenthe
We never fight for more than one day.. maybe were just too stressed from work.. i never see it coming.. we were even planning to get married after rrsidency training..
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