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Almost together for 4years.... And she acts like it was nothing. She's out partying and hooking up with random assholes having time of her life... She didn't even seem sad or upset at all when we were breaking up.. Didn't even seem like the woman I feel in love with... My heart is just pieces now, I don't want to show that I'm hurting.. So I put on a show for family and friends around.. But I just don't understand.. Like a week before we broke up we talked about future together..
So you already said she is not sad or upset at the breakup and is having the time of her life. You, on the other hand, are hurting pretty bad.
I don't know how long you have been broken up, but how about limiting the time you think about her and your relationship to one hour per day. The rest of the day you must think about something else. It isn't impossible, but the idea is to get you to refocus off her and onto other things.
Your time spend focusing on her is time better spent focusing on you because you are now more important than she is. You have to figure out how to get past all this and go on.
Please take care of yourself. Many, many hugs.
stay strong
Sounds like she may be the type to hold back feelings rather than talk about them in the open, which has a negative effect on a relationship. Maybe when you were talking about the future, she had the other feelings, of a different life that didn't include you, in reserve.
You can't tell yourself that you meant nothing to her, because obviously you meant something to her since she was with you for 4 years. Try not to dwell on these thoughts all day if you can help it.