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Just broke up with my fiance a few months ago.

CrazyItalian
CrazyItalian

I was with him for almost 4 years and he was such an asshole. And then  my phone was fucked up so I hooked up his old phone that I bought him. And everything that I saw broke my heart even more than he already did. He was going on sex sites to meet chicks just to fuck. I couldn't believe it. I knew he liked porn and jerked off a lot  but it didn't bother me until I saw that. Even though we have been broken up for months. He was such an asshole. I worked the whole time. He started stealing my money, doing drugs in my house when I was at work letting random people there. And the last time I left him I found out that he was letting heroin addict hookers stay there. So god knows how many girls he slept with even though he swore nothing ever happened. And then he was mean the majority of the time and couldn't keep a job. He was always accusing me of cheating ( which usually is a sign that they are) I never was by any means. Sorry it just hurts. I just needed to vent. We were still associates because we still have the car in both of our names unfortuanatly and he needed me to drive him to see his dads girlfriend who is supposivly sick. But when I saw those internet searches I blocked him on FB and he doesn't know my new cell number. Why do  I keep looking for the good in people when there isn't good in everyone?  Thank you for letting me vent.

OLDBIKER
OLDBIKER
I am sorry you are having to deal with this but, there are still some good people. I agree, there are many hurtful people in this world. I have met quite a few myself. Anyone can put on a good front but, it will eventually crack and the real person will show through. There are masters of deception everywhere but, as I said, there are still some good, caring, compassionate and loving people in this world. Look at the bright side of things. How would you have felt had you been married to this man? It's better to find out now than later. The sooner you can break full ties with this man, the better off you will be.
brooklyn
brooklyn
hi there, im sorry to hear what you are going through. I feel your pain, my x husband was and is still mean. when we were dating i found transgender porn, well more like craiglist ads on his playstation. yes i still married him because we chose to work through it. we were together for 8 yrs and after our baby was born i found out he was cheating on me for a year or more and was going to leave me for her. he is not with her now but the whole thing was awful. he was mean loves sex so much and the presurre he put on me to have sex at least twice a day and or a bj was crazy. it was a turn off because it was not enjoyable
CrazyItalian
CrazyItalian
Thanks for the replys. I wish it didn't hurt so much. I know I can do so much better and rhat he was an,asshole , but I never meet nice people it seems. And I dont go out because I am afraid to and I dont have any fruends anymore because I cut so many bad people out ofmy life.
MontgomeryDad
MontgomeryDad
You can do better. Now you'all have the time to meet all those nice people who are out there. Trust me,you'll be in a much better place.
CrazyItalian
CrazyItalian
Thank you guys for the responses. It Is still hard, because I still love him even though I hate him. I told him the other night I did 't believe him about not getting on dating sites. When I saw the shit on his phone history. He said it came up when he was looking up porn which isn't a big deal. I have always known he watches porn. But I don't know about all that . But the point is I really don't care, unfortunately. It seems like I have given up on everything years ago. I am not depressed anymore. I am just happy all the time now, but it isn't what I am really feeling inside of me.
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