Well first of all its your choice and no one elses. Second of all it will help you feel better and take the pain away which should give you a little happiness and help you to feel better with out the nagging pain.

You need to make the decision to pick yourself up and carry on! I know its hard and especially when things beat you down. Trust me I have been there in hell for the last 4 years. Find reasons every day to want to get better and live life to its fullest!

I wish you the best of luck and hope you recover and get well soon!

I think that you should make up your own mind since it is your body. There are other pills, patches and devices you can try to use until you feel you are more emotionally stable to have the surgery.

Surgery takes a lot out of you. Going into recovery if you are not in a good state of mind can hinder the recovery time And can cause frustrations for you.

I think given the surgery and recovery for the first bit you'll WANT to sleep all the time!

Discuss various strength painkillers with your medical professional and maybe dial it down a notch it two after the first few days.

If you are strong enough to want to fight oxy , then you are strong enough for the surgery and rehab

I agree, it's your body, it's your choice. And I think Broken's right, you sound like a fighter to me.

If I were in the situation, I'd research the surgery and recovery after (not just rely on information from the doctor/hospital). Knowing what to expect always helps me deal with things and to have more confidence. See if there are message boards of people that have gone through this sort of surgery and what experiences they had afterwards. Support groups are good. ;)

What does your actual medical doctor think? Being constantly on oxycodin is not good. I have had surgery on my hip due to car accident. I do agree your determination to get better does make a difference on your physical recovery and my surgeon told me that makes a huge difference on recovery. Keep your eyes and emotions focused on the benefits of the surgery. IMO the pain for the actual surgery and recovery is worth the benefits. FYI I had to go thru 4 surgeries following my accident so I know what the pain is like.

thank you for your replies....I think I will have the surgery since it is set already. My social worker actually wants me to tell my ex that I am getting surgery because like it or not, he is the only person I actually speak to, all of my so called friends just went away, don't understand it....apparently, they didn't like my situation with my ex, it took 12 1/2 years to get the guts to actually get him out of the house, I had no place to go, and he said, neither did he, but he got impossible at the end, and his leaving was wonderful. So, I tried to get my old friendships back, and no one wanted to know me, don't know why?, So, I talk to him, seems his mistress doesn't want him anymore, and he wants to come back here, which will never happen.

Since I am so alone, I just use him for favors, last week the 2 cats got sick, and because of my hip, I couldn't take them to the vet, and now he is letting them living with him until I am back from the hospital. If there was another way, I wouldn't see him ever again, and that is the truth.I do not know why my past friends walked out on me..... I was trying to make friends, and it seems like people just didn't wanta to, I don't understand that. So, I will be in the hospital on Tuesday. I don't know exactly why the social worker wanted me to tell him that I am having surgery, except, maybe if there is an emergency, someone should know. So, I told him, he is driving me to the hospital. But I will alert the hospital, he cannot make any decisions for me. I consider him dangerous at this time, but being so alone does something to you. I assure you guys, he will not live with me again ever but my sw thinks I should be friends with him because no one else knows me anymore. Again, I don't know why.

He cannot enter my home because I changed all the locks and my domestic abuse counselor called ex up and told him if he violates the order of protection, he and his g/f will go to jail. But even the domestic abuse counselor told me to be friends with him for emergencies. If this all sounds screwy, it certainally is. Why do I want to be friends with this person? Thing is I don't....But I am having surgery, and not one person calls me.

I know that after I get well, I will get rid of him completely.He hurt me too bad. It can never be fixed..