You will find a new normal in time just take it day by day. I'm two months into .my new life and the things that has helped me is just keeping busy

precisely, try not and dwell on anything but the present and more importantly the future, the time is now to do all the things you've always wanted to do

No set time to feel normal. Unfortunately time is different for everyone. 7 months in for me and I still have stressful days. I know someday it will feel normal. I've put in a lot of work to get to where I am today. Still got a ways to go.
Keep working on yourself. Heal, get better and improve. Do the little things that make you happy. Stay strong and positive.
-HUGS-

There is never a definitive answer, a different time line for all of us. BUT THERE IS ALWAYS HOPE AND YOU WILL GET THERE. Be gentle with yourself. Do one positive thing for yourself each day. Take fifteen minutes at a time and don't get to ahead of yourself. Call a trusted family member or friend when you need support. Take a walk to clear your head. Watch a movie or read a book that will inspire you. When you are having rough thoughts, replace them with positive thoughts or distract yourself with something that you enjoy doing....such as cooking, walking, a cup of coffee, etc. Be intentional about being a good friend to yourself. You will get there. You absolutely will!

I was going to answer the question and basically back you up since its been 6mo for me and im far from normal.....allow me to answer a question with another question... or perhaps it is more of a statement. I believe normal in this context refers to the feeling that we had when things appeared to be good for us during the time of the relationship. It's far more specific than just normal period technically you are normal now and so am I and The New Normal sucks. Objective normal is just the present. What we seek is the comfort of those familiar feelings that have been utterly destroyed. Personally i feel that no matter what happens, these emotional scars will never go away. However it doesn't mean that new even more meaningful relationships over the horizon cant come into existence. I'm sure a shrink would say we shouldn't seek relationships to fix us, that we should become comfortable in our own skin before embarking on a new personal adventure. Im no shrink or expert but that sounds right. Personally I miss intimacy and love too. Being betrayed and abandoned sucks. I feel like I'm a ways away from whatever normal is. This chick really did a number on me and I've been through heaetache before. But never anything this bad. I feel like i wont feel "normal" in this context "right with the world" until i have a new intimate love in my arms. My friends tell me to do the whole f-buddy thing but its the hollow shit that im trying to avoid. My mariage tuned out to be hollow. I never want to go through this again. I just want a new routine that includes someone to come home to, who is amorous, affectionate and there for me when i need her most. What im looking for is reciprocity. All I have is responsibility. 2 jobs and 2 kids. 0 days off and i only get my kids half the time. That's considered generous next to some of the horror stories i hear from other dads who truly lose everything and everyone. Doesnt make me feel much better. Im sure being tired at 4am at an emotional low jades my current perspective. I love my kids but i miss having a wife and the fantasy of what i thought i had with her. I suppose an analogy of it is the relationship tom cruise had with penelope cruz in vanilla sky....(spoiler alert.) It was all a dream. Turns out he didnt even really know her...then he wakes up and has to live his real life without her. The ephemora is gone. I loved my old life. Its so unfair to have it deliberately ripped away by the very person at its center, who I loved and trusted most. Its all gone. :(

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That was a good post FamilyGuy. I certainly feel the same in many was as you do. It's been 11 months since my wife left me. As a result, the responsibilities increased as you also experience. There is never a day off. Never a time to relax and enjoy peacefully. Quiet times that do happen are clouded by worries, sadness, stress, anxiety, unhappiness. This is not 100% of the time, but there is always a dark cloud hovering close by. Time and life really do fly by, so... at least our demise is guaranteed to one day officially end. God bless. Enjoy the infrequent moments when you might actually have a laugh.

I'm on the same spot as you. I just want to feel normal. I want to wake up without despair. I hope your normal comes quickly to you.