Yikes....No to the couch idea! When my wife dumped me she wanted to stay also to "save some money" and i tell ya after 3 weeks of that hell I told her I wanted her out and to go live with her mother who only lives a few miles away. It was an impossible situation.

Sounds like he's really trying to worm his way back in as you say. I tell ya it will just be more of the same, nobody changes in that short of time, but I know you know that. Take care and stay strong for your kids.

Don't let him in meet him somewhere
With the baby..he will use her to get to u
Once he's in the door he won't leave and
You don't need this kind of torture...I wish he would leave so I can heal

Kbbcoop77 thank you for responding! No I don't want him back. He used me. For years. He wants to continue to use me. I want a real partner, you know. A real one. One who gives and takes. Someone to go fishing with and to watch movies with and hold hands with but someone who is doing it because he loves me and wants to be with me and not because of any financial benefit and because he just hasn't found the one yet and I'm convienent.

Great post (#3) kristinch1, you sound strong. I'm hurting a lot but the anger is really winning out, and I feel the same way. I've been used. For years. I am so damn angry about it I could scream.

If she ever expressed an interest in reconciling at this point I would laugh in her face and say I have no trust or respect for you, get the eff out of here. She disgusts me and I am trying to replace my mental "image" of her with the new, narcissistic, skanky, disrespectful, social media addict version of her.

I may "feel" somewhat broken right now, but I can put myself back together. My stbx is broken in a way that is probably not reversible. I don't think you can get your integrity back. And years of cheating and lying have to do a number on a person as well.

Today started out bad for me. Most days do, actually. I hate mornings. But usually I start to feel better by afternoon, especially if I manage to get a workout in and/or eat some lunch. Hang in there, as you probably know your mood can change a lot hour-to-hour as this point in time.

And do NOT let him spend any extra time with you or in your house. I still have to live with my stbx and that is the HARDEST part of all this, by far. Keep him away as much as possible. Let him see the baby somewhere else even, like at a park.

Best wishes.

You said you need something good to happen. Tell him "hell no" to sleeping on your couch. That would be a great thing. You need to spend as little time as possible with him. Do you have a friend or relative who can transport your daughter to visitation with him so you can further limit contact?

What strikes me is how he's offering you $300 to rent the couch but didn't pay anything all the years he lived with you. Seriously? I would tell that bozo that he can't sleep on my couch because it just wouldn't look right to my future husband. Cheer up lady! You're fabulous and I know that you have the sense to kick him to the curb for good.

I'm with everyone here

I feel for you and express exactly the same sentiment as Stopingo

I would tell my Stbx to go to hell

and you should too

So sorry that he is doing this to you. This is emotional manipulation and it has to stop!!

This guy is trying everything he can to work his way back in...good for you for not allowing him. DONT let him guilt you into anything!! Stay strong as this can lead to nothing good.

I had the same situation and at first I allowed him to do it to me...then finally I had enough and put a stop to it ..thank God. Unfortunately we now are going through a VERY contentious divorce but at least he is not asking me to dinner anymore. Thats just not right!

Stay strong for you and your child as I said...this can lead to nothing good!

I do hope you day is going better...best of luck to you and stay strong!!

Hugsss Sandy