My husband and I have been married over 3 years and those 3 years have been very difficult. I always thought that your spouse was supposed to put you first above everyone else. I thought my husband was like that until the day I married him, there was an altercation with one of his family members and I was attacked at our wedding reception when I was sticking up for him over one of his father's lies. Since our wedding things have been very shaking with his family, and he never took care of problems or addressed issues until I was so fed up that I was ready to leave. After our first child was born things seemed to get better, so I thought, and I went off birth control, on Easter things really came to a head, I said I was going back on birth control not going to risk getting pregnant and if things did not start changing drastically it was time for our son and I to leave. I mean how long am I supposed to go on feeling completely alone? He turned out not to be the man I thought I was marrying. Well a few days after Easter low and behold I was already pregnant, so of course that put a halt on leaving, due to the economy I am financially stuck, I will need to file bankruptcy to afford my own place. So I am now 6 1/2 months pregnant with our 2nd, and at my wits end. I cannot go on acting like everything is okay, I cannot go on feeling completely alone, and I feel like it is time to finally leave so I can have some time to start over before this baby comes. I have been completely open and honest with him how I have felt all along, so it is not that he doesn't know, he either just doesn't care or doesn't comprehend what I am telling him. When we get in big fights and I started looking for an apartment I hear how I don't need to be doing that, that I need to stay and work things out, yet nothing gets worked out, then when I post my truck up for sale I hear how awful I am because he will be left without a vehicle, because our 2 vehicles are in my name, the house is his, he doesn't understand that he has a house already and I will need to sell my second truck to find a place and start over. But I am the one that is selfish, I kept a second vehicle since before we were even married, so he had something to drive, when he had 2 P.O.S.'s in the driveway that didnt run and he couldn't part with, he didn't part with them until he absolutely had to. That is another problem our marriage has never become a partnership, his and mine, when it comes down to it, I have no say in what is in our house, our who or what is stored here, or even ground rules for family members that cannot respect our wishes. And here right now me the 6 1/2 month pregnant one is trying to get some rest on the couch while he is comfortably sleeping in the bedroom. And the worst part is that there is another decent bedroom in the basement, so he has a comfortable place he can go sleep, but he knows I cannot go down there due to my awful allergies, and it does not affect him. Thru everything I have waited for him to change the things, I know I am not perfect either, but the things I need to change cannot change without a change from him first, he wants me to be less pissy and short tempered, but how can I when all of it is because of my frustration and fed up with him and not doing what he needs to do. It is like he cannot get that it is cause and effect, he hurt me and has done nothing to change it or make up for it and there fore my feelings have changed, what I once wanted with him, I no longer do.

Am I so wrong to expect to be put first by my spouse?
I do/have put him first.
Am I wrong to think that moving on is better than trying to wait on the slight chance things may get better eventually?