Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I work in a very mentally exhausting job. I love my job I assist developmentally disabled people in their home. It's very rewarding but very draining at the same time. Anyway getting off track here In my previous life if i was having a bad day i knew towards the end of my day i could call my husband and talk to him. Just hearing his voice and talking about his day would make me feel better. Now in my new life whenever I'm at work I have to keep reminding myself that he isn't there. There will be no "Hey sweetie how was your day" no "I love you" at the other end of the phone. Sometimes i miss him so much. I do stupid things like looking at a photo of him on my phone and I hurts to think he will never hold me again or kiss me. The thought seems so crazy to me and I have to convince myself that this is really happening Why is it so unreal to me? Why do I still worry if he is okay? He could care less how I am doing. I don't cry so much anymore which is good I just feel like I'm in a state of numbness having to remind myself this is real.
And then I start to think too much about being single. Thats something I can't even wrap my head around. And dating I know that's not something I'm ready for but wow it's such a strange idea for me to even think about. Thanks everyone for letting me ramble on if I didn't do this I think I would go crazy hugs to everyone
Have a look at this site: http://www.abandonment.net/swirl-the-five-stages-of-abandonment. You're early on in the process in the Shattering and Withdrawal stages.
Though the descriptions listed on that page don't show it the full book that lady wrote talks about a lot of people feeling like they were detached from reality in the Shattering stage. I know I felt that way for awhile.
These feelings are temporary (Thank God!) but they are VERY powerful. You will make it through them. Hang in there and take it 1 day, hour or minute at a time.
Its over, there is no going back and he did Not come to
his senses as many hope underneath.
I really could not believe It was really happening during
The separation. It all felt surreal even the divorce and all
The decisions that needed to be made. Its was just a haze
Its emotional overload, overwhelm and plus grief and a
slew Of other very powerful emotions and feelings. If there
is an affair partner that adds much more rejection, pain and
hurt to an Already emotionally charged and bad situation,
HUGS