Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I wanted to say that I've really been helped by this group during such a painful period in my life. Thanx! I wanted to add, though, that reading these stories of cheating, abusive, dysfunctional spouses terrifies me that I'm gonna end up in one of those all over again. The ones that really terrify me are the "I was so in love and delusional until I discovered..." I realize people in the healthy, "We've been in love for 50 years and it just gets better" are not posting here, but DAMN, how do we avoid those traps and those psychic vampires that consume our life forces and throw us away like the wrapper to a candy bar once they got what they wanted? Seriously, the ability of monsters in disguise to perpetuate an illusion until you're in a place of utter vulnerability is mind-boggling. I always ask myself what was going on with me to not pick up on the warning signs? I can romanticize the fuck out of anything, and it blinds me in choosing a mate. Any thoughts?
Love tears us apart.
#2 for me also. Im having a hard time believeing in myself now after this one. Whats the saying? Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me? You know the one GWB fouled up so bad...
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your blinders are off now to how really screwed up it can get.
I can relate to feeling afraid that you will be stuck going through all of this again.
However...
I chose to not live in fear. And I gave a guy a chance. I kept my eyes open, and I double checked on the things that scared me.. down to each pulling and swapping our credit reports..
I've been with him for nearly three years and in April, I'm getting married. Again.
And this time my eyes are open.
I learned from the agony of the past. I accepted my part in it and I grew.
Could it go horribly wrong? Sure. But we've built the foundation for a great future. I'm betting on a good life together.
Don't give up hope.
Lynne
It sucks but necessary if you don't want to be eating a live in this world.