Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
This morning marks the day that I filed the divorce forms with the court so hopefully this is a step in reaching some closure. I will have them served on her tomorrow so barring any complications, it should finalize on August 4.
This was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do and I was ok in the clerks office until she started stamping the papers with the case number and that's when I lost it and started to cry. She handed me some tissues to dry my eyes and told me that it's never easy and I'm not the first guy that has cried there while filing the papers. She had a very sympathetic manner that helped me calm down and regain my composure but when it was all said and done, I couldn't get out of that office quick enough.
I've been sitting here at work trying to put two coherent thoughts together and am finding it difficult. I'll be happy when 5 rolls around and I can get out of this office as well. I hope this is the start of better things but if it is, why does it hurt so bad?
This was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do and I was ok in the clerks office until she started stamping the papers with the case number and that's when I lost it and started to cry. She handed me some tissues to dry my eyes and told me that it's never easy and I'm not the first guy that has cried there while filing the papers. She had a very sympathetic manner that helped me calm down and regain my composure but when it was all said and done, I couldn't get out of that office quick enough.
I've been sitting here at work trying to put two coherent thoughts together and am finding it difficult. I'll be happy when 5 rolls around and I can get out of this office as well. I hope this is the start of better things but if it is, why does it hurt so bad?
In my case, filing the divorce and getting the final divorce decree were the worst times (barring the behavior that caused the divorce, of course). Ironically, the divorce hearing itself, didn't bother me. This is the time where you should work on yourself.
Good luck to you, but you should view this as looking for the light at the end of the tunnel vs the beginning of the end. Having a positive outlook (I know, very difficult) will be of great help to get through this time. Try not to turtle up and wait for things to happen. Get out and be sociable, if you can. You are going to hurt and it's normal.
My 25 cents adjusted for inflation.
It's not the end, it's just a new chapter in your book of life you are starting. That's how I look at it.
I can't offer you any advice. Just know that we are here and we care.
If it makes you feel any better by comparison:
In my state we dont get "served", we sloppy, unprofessional, handwritten photocopies in the mail but it takes several days after filing.
He texted me a photo of the announcement in the newspaper. Thats how I found out he filed for divorce.
Tammi
I'm with you, buddy!
F'ing divorce is her damn idea, she knew she was going to be served at 5:30 and she's taking a F'ing nap??? And the Wicked Witch of the F'ing West won't wake her up????
I don't believe this crap!!!!!
Once i had filed i downloaded a countdown widget for my phone So i could literally see how many-few days were left. Somehow it helped me when things felt dragging i could see that time was moving forward.
Don't worry or apologize for expressing your emotions. They are the key. Try to objectively follow the thought train backwards. The string of thoughts that build up to the expression of emotion. It might be painful, but that's where you'll find you need to focus your healing.
Hang in there guy!